is there anyway i can get my tubes tide before i am 21?

Question

i had my first child right after my 18th birthday, and was told i couldnt have my tubes tide until i was 21. i was on the shot and gained so much weight it made me sick. now i am pregnant again,and thinking of having an abortion,there is no way my boyfriend and i can take care of another, is there anything i can say to the doctor to make them let me?i am 19 now

i have my son and i love him, but the doctor asked me if i wanted them tied then told me no. i dont understand why you cant make your own descision on wether you want ur tubes tied or not. i am having a hard enough time with one,and the dad hardly igknowledges him.

i guess most of you arent really trying to help just tryin to make it worse. i juz asked a question on the tubes tide part

Answer 1

sorry for your situation, don't listen to the ppl telling you abortion is wrong or that they are trying to conceive, because their judgement/advise is jaded with their own hopes and dreams.

I don't feel sorry for people who cannot conceive and is against abortion, because if they wanted children so bad, they themselves would adopt the millions of children out there in the need of mothers and fathers.

No judgement here, if you feel that you do not want this baby or can take care of it, then you decide if it's a hurdle you can jump over. Be 100% positive about your decision, As for the doctor telling you that you can't get your tubes tied, I believe they can, but refuse simply because of your age. You may change your mind in the future.

As for the women who told you to stop having sex. Whatever, there are plenty of women that are married who have abortions.

When I had mine, I was talking to a 32 year old married women, who already had 2 kids and did not want any more.

Women come from all walks of life . . .

Answer 2

The reason they limit that decision by age and/or number of children is because surgical sterilization has to be considered a permanent form of birth control. So much can change in your life in the space of a few years and when you're older and more financially stable you may find that you desperately want another child.

Whether or not you choose to abort now is your choice. Whatever you choose, though, you need to educate yourself about birth control for the future. Getting your tubes tied is far from the only option available to you and you should be able to find a non-permanent form that fits your needs and works for you. Then, if you still want your tubes tied a few years down the road at least it won't be a decision made out of desperation.

Answer 3

You are in a very tight place right now. When you were recovering from your first pregnancy the docs could have (should have) tied your tubes if you requested it to be done. I'm sure he or she was assuming you wanted to change your mind later and have regrets. Now you need to realize a couple of things, this may seen harsh but I'm not trying to be. First of all, if the shot wasn't working there are other forms of birthcontrol, if you knew you and your boyfriend were not ready for another baby there are more ways than one to NOT get pregnant. I'm sure you know that and now that your pregnant there isn't any reason to go through the should of, would of, could of's. Your pregnant, that is the bottom line, what to do now? I urge you to seek counseling with someone that can help you and your boyfriend through this, there are options, I'm sure you know those as well and whatever choice you make is YOURS--not anyone else's.

If you seeing the same OB doctor I suggest you change and talk with someone who will listen to you and what you want. The doctors just want to be sure you are ready for all the aspects that are involved with a tubal ligation, its a big thing to have done.

Counseling is my suggestion and then whoever helps you can also talk with the doctor(s) who are involved and help you get what you want. Hang in there and God Bless.

Answer 4

I doubt it. Most doctors won't tie your tubes until you're at least 21 because most women regret it later on. I'm 19, and have a 6 month old, and we're going to start TTC again in a few months, so that our kids can be close together in age, and we only want 2 kids as of now, but I'm not getting my tubes tied at 21 or 22 years old because I know I'll probably regret it later in life.

By the time my son graduates high school, I'll still be young enough to have another child, so there's no way I'm getting them tied yet.

Answer 5

I have to agree w/ Muffy! I had my child when I was your age and understand how hard it can be....I have been on my own since I was 17 and had my child at 19. My boyfriend and I had absolutely NO SUPPORT from anyone, but we managed to raise her and offer her stability, although it was hard, in the long run it was worth it. I was responsible and wise enough to know that I would not put myself in a situation I couldn't handle again- so FYI there is other options besides birth control if your worried about your weight, your gonna gain weight anyway cause your pregnant AGAIN! Sounds like you both need to be a little more responsible, get it together and raise those kids! You can do it ;0)

Answer 6

What state are you in? I know that here in Texas you cannot and this just happend within the past two years. A friend of mine had her second at 19 and got hers tied but the baby will be two in October so I am guessing the times have changed. I know it makes no sense to not be able to choose what is done to your own body but I really dont think there is anything you can do but wait another 2 years. I really hope that whatever path you choose is right for you.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

The surgeon would definitely advise you against it. You're too young to make this decision for the rest of your life. When you're older and in a stable relationship and a better financial situation, you may want another child. Years from now, you may find yourself marrying someone else entirely, someone you might want to have a child with.

You need to be really diligent about your birth control, but it can be done. Explore all the methods with your doctor or nurse midwife to find one that will work for you with minimal effort and have the least side-effects.

It's just not wise to make decisions that last forever based on temporary circumstances. You will regret it when you're 25, if not sooner.

Answer 8

If you can't take the shot, then take the pill, use a condom, Do both just to be sure you don't get pregnant!!!! There are so many senseless abortions that happen. I would not suggest getting your tubes tied this young incase you go talk to a consular, and decide that is still what you want to do. In the end it is your body and I think if you are SURE that you want to do it you should be able too.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

They usually won't let you because you might change your mind in the future about having kids. My friends doctor told her not until she was 25 or had 3 kids. I think its to save you the trouble of maybe having to get it reversed later. Did you ask your doctor exactly why?? Maybe that would help better.