Ok let me start off by saying that my husband is 20 yrs older than me. I am 23 and he is 42. We had a baby 6 months ago and my best friend keeps her for me during the day. My husband is a nurse and works at night. That makes him home everyday when my friend is their with the baby. Lastnight he called to amke sure that she remembered that she had to be their at 7. Then when she got their, they sat on the couch together and talked while I fed the baby. It made me feel VERY weird that he sat beside her and not me and also that he called her. HELP!!! Am i just being jealous or should I worry?
2006-09-19 06:14:26 · 42 answers · asked by pookiebree1616 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like you should talk to your husband. At this point, hormones may be still a bit off kilter and you might be seeing something that isn't there. However, sharing your concern with your husband in a non-accusatory manner is not a bad idea. There is something to be said for gut feelings.
To all those that are bashing you because he is home during the day with the sitter... ignore them. Apparently they did not read the entire question. I worked graveyards for years. Having a sitter while you sleep makes perfect sense. Working an overnight shift goes against biological processes and it takes more sleep during the daytime to equal the same sleep others get during the night.
2006-09-19 06:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust either one of them. I am insecure and my husband knows it, he is as well and I know it, we are very aware of it and careful we don't do things that make us feel even more insecure then we already are, maybe you need to talk to your man and tell him how you feel and he'll prbably be more careful not to put more doubt there. Get an older sitter a grandma type. I learned things about friends long ago and and I have very few and I'm not bothered by it at all. There may not be anything going on, he may just want to feel as close to her as you are she is your best friend and caring for your child but I would find a different sitter soon even if nothing is going on between them a situation like this can cause more damage then it's worth... If you really feel there is something to be worried about try a small tape recorder hidden well then you will deffinatly know what is said and how they are while you're not around! You'll know for sure if you have something to be worried about or not! Good Luck!
2006-09-19 07:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very worried.
Stop her services immediately and don't have her in your house when he's in. If she asks why, tell her that she is getting too close for comfort. If she feels offended or tries to deny anything, just tell her you no longer want to be her friend anymore. If she says you are being too suspicious, tell her it pays to be more suspicious than less suspicious. Losing a best friend is not as bad as losing a husband to the best friend.
Your husband has to agree to your decision. If he gets very upset about it, it proves that he is having an affair with her. Of course you need to find another baby sitter (an older woman is preferable) or you need to stay home to take care of your baby.
2006-09-19 20:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your hormones are flying high right now and you will be a little more jealous than normal, but, I would neve bring another woman in my house while i am not home unless it is my sister or mother simply because you can love your friend and cherish her but friends stab you in the back and a man can only be tempted just so many times before he breaks. I love my husband but as far as being faithful I will never fully trust a man any man in that department, men are tempted all the time, so why on earth would you bring the temptation right into your home, i have told my friends that I love them and I cherish their friendship but when it comes to my husband I trust no-one and they know that if they come to my house and i am not there they are to leave not come in and chit chat LEAVE if im not there they have no reason to be either. My friends respect me and don't hold it against me because I give them the same respect when it comes to their husbands.
2006-09-19 06:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_frootloops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure, how well do you know this women? I would come right out and ask him.
..why cant he take care of the baby since he is home? what is up with that! you dont need a sitter he is the other parent!!
2006-09-19 06:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and the baby sitter?
2014-12-15 20:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want her ther at 7:00 am if there is nothing going on . I would keep my eye on him and her. I would also get a new baby sitter that is really ugly that he finds unattractive.
2006-09-19 06:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with your husband. Tell him what makes you feel uncomfortable. Make sure you emphasize that this is your problem and that you don't accuse him. If he knows that it bothers you so much, he should back off a little. I would wait until something like this happens again before having the conversation. You don't want to bring up a problem because of one little senario.
2006-09-19 06:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So... he called her to remind her to be there at 7. What's the problem??? She is the babysitter. What's wrong in him calling her to remind her. And so... he sat beside her and talked while you were feeding the baby. Again whats the problem. Who cares if he sat beside her - they're talking. What was he suppose to do -sit on the other side of the room and she on the other side and carry out a conversation. Come on this is just stupid jealousy.
2006-09-19 06:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pookie
Talk to your husband and this way you two can clear the air he may have sat next to her while you were feeding for he didn't want to disturb you he may be ironing out some details and why isn't your guy watching the baby during the day ? but talk to your man and find out what is going on
HUGS
2006-09-19 06:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋