I just found out my baby's father has been cheating on me with several girls including my ex boyfriends baby mama. I decided to leave him when I found out this information but how am I supposed to move on when I have to deal with him for my son. He does nothing for my son but pay child support. I'm really heartbroken because I've been nothing but faithful to him. Any advice?
2006-09-19 05:24:18 · 13 answers · asked by LADY H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well since you are already apart, Screw HIM! Get a restraining order so you don't have to see his disgusting, lying, cheating face. AS long as he's paying child support and staying out of legal trouble he can still see the child.....but If you are so uncomfortable around him, you can have the state escort your little one to meet w/ him so you don't have to see him. That can be arranged through the courts or through your local DSS office. You can do so much better, and there is a man out there who will love you more than anything as well as your child......everything comes with time and yours is coming since you were the one w/ the good heart......Put it behind you and find something to do w/ your little one like a family gym or Friday night go out to dinner.........ya know little things to keep you focused on the baby and yourself.........Cuz thats what matters! One day that little one will ask you what was wrong and all you have to say is, "call your dad and ask him"........you can do it!
2006-09-19 05:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by arielchrisandjunior 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont need a cheater in your life. You deserve better than that. He obviously chooses not to change and you will only deal with heartbreak in the end. You dont need to deal with him just because he is the babys father. If he wants to see the baby then you need to find a mediator. Someone like a family member or a good friend that will have your baby when the father picks him up and drops him off. Lucky for you that you receive child support. There are many children that go without any support from the absent parent. I hope you can find someone that will love you so unconditionally that they would never even think of cheating on you and that will love your child like their own. They are out there. You just havent found him yet. Give yourself that chance. Good luck!
2006-09-19 12:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by ca_dahlberg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're heartbroken. I am sure you wanted for your son to have his parents together. But you have to be strong for your son. Obviously you and his father being together is not in the best interest of your son because if his father is cheating on you and making you unhappy because of this your son will pick up on it. So my advice is not to be with this guy anymore because it isnt in the best interest of you or your son. This guy is selfish he doesnt do anything for your son so you should be mad at that first off and second he's been cheating on you. No good! I've been there I know first hand! You cant change him so dont even try its not an option and it never will be.
2006-09-19 12:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by jenn87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control other people's actions, only your own. Thank goodness he is paying child support, a lot of young fathers don't. Find yourself a decent working man who wants to marry you and be a loving stepfather to your son. Don't fall for this again and have another child without being married. Your son deserves to grown up with a father/father-figure present in his life to teach him how to be a man.
2006-09-19 12:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by karen W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said it urself. he does nothing but pay child support.let him know he can see ur son but not when HE wants to .it has to be a like a routine thing.ex. every other weekend or something.letting him"pop" up when he feels like it is telling him he can see the baby whenever he wants. and that isnt good for the baby.its going to hurt to move on but u will sweety in time.remember what he has done to u and know that u have to raise ur son to be a better man than his father.good luck
2006-09-19 12:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Moniluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a difficult one...my daughters father chose not to be in daughters life and though it is hard financially (no child support at all), mentally it is a stress reliever. my daughter is 6 so it took years for me to get to this point. now i realize that i am better off without that added stress. i am not saying to have nothing to do with him, my point is...is that things will get better with time. through time you will see what needs to be done and that the decision that you made was the only choice that you had at that particular time. no regrets, everything happens for a reason...he had no respect for you and what would he be teaching your child?
good luck....
2006-09-19 12:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by KodeNmKidzNxtDoor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize that you did nothing wrong and move on. He's responsible for his own actions. If in the future you pick someone else who acts like this then you need to understand why you're doing this to yourself.
2006-09-19 12:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just made a mistake in judgement we have all been there and it is not pleasant. unfortunately yes you have to deal with him over the issue of child support but you really dont .
2006-09-19 12:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him pay child support and move on with your life-you shouldn't have to live your life this way!!
2006-09-19 12:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave his a $ $ and get child support that what i am during with my x boyfriend
2006-09-19 13:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋