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Question about closeness and moving from friendship to more!!!!??????
I have this best friend, I'm a guy, she's a girl, we are 15 and have known each other for 2 years. When we hang out in a group, we are always standing close to each other. We playfully fight with and mock each other all the time. She calls me Reilly, even tho everyone else calls me by my first name and if they call me Reilly she gets anoyed. We are very comfortable with each other. On a couch we sorta lean into each other, anyway, I am pretty sure now that she likes me, an I know I like her, A Lot, so what should I do next? Should I test the waters by hugging her? An arm round the shoulder or waist? Any advice?

Specifically I want to know what I should do next and how.

Also, sholud I make it apparant to her that I am trying to change our relationship? Like, blatantly put my arm round her waist? Or should I be more subtle?

Please give long answers, I'v had all the short ones you can think of.

Answer 1

At 15 you are doing what is best and enjoy being 15 and the relationship you have, sorry the answer is short, somethings are not complicated, and the answers are simply short.

Answer 2

First of all, this seems as if you're both just flirting with the idea of taking the friendship onto another level, but by what you've just described, I definitely think that she's really interested. A normal girl without any romantic feelings for you wouldn't get angry that other people call you the name that she does. Then there's the physical contact - by reading the actions that she takes you're reading the body language that she's trying to convey to you. If you like her and would like to see if she's really interested or not, be subtle. But I must say that she's probably wondering why you haven't made a move by now yet! So, be subtle but don't wait forever between the moves if you know what I mean. Start getting her alone and putting your arm around her, a little more physical contact and if she responds positively, then maybe you could be more daring and start holding hands. If you think holding hands comes after the whole asking her out thing, by increasing the physical contact and getting a positive response, you'll know then that you can ask her out and what she'll say. The key here then is to be subtle but don't keep her waiting because she might lose interest and that's not where you want to be. So, be bold and good luck!

Answer 3

I wouldnt get any more physical with this girl until you find out where she is really at. I think you should just come right out and say that you like her more than just as a friend. In todays world guys and girls can be great friends without it going any further than that. If she doesnt feel that way and you kiss her or put your arm around her she could hall off and smack you. Wouldnt that be embarrassing?! A girl likes a guy that can be honest and loving. They dont like guys that beat around the bush or get pushy. Talk to her in private. Share your heart with her. You would be surpised with the answer you'll get back in return. She will either tell you she feels the same way or she will say that you are her best friend and choses to keep it that way. Either way you cant lose and she will appreciate you being soft and sincere with her. Good luck. I hope you get the girl!

Answer 4

Every single one of us who's ever been 15 knows exactly where you are and what you're feeling - and is probably a little jealous. This is a road you must walk with just one other person - you know who she is. The only guaranteed way to get hurt is to do absolutely nothing. She's just as nervous and confused as you are. But it's us poor male guys who have to make the first move, even if it's only subtle. Don't get involved in anything that might tempt her daddy to dust off the shotgun, you got lotsa time. Good Luck.

Answer 5

U think so much frnd... if I had a bf like u !!
Anyways, do anything u like. Now anything means anything. Plz don't get advice 4 these. U r the ruler of urself. But be cautious, don't overdo. OK? First of all, be her best frnd & always stand beside her, when even the whole world is against her. That's more important to make her understand that u r her main support.

Answer 6

At your age this is puppy love or infatuation as they call it. I suggest that you don't make a deliberate attempt to push things. If the feelings are reciprocal it will eventually happen without you giving thought or taking the effort. The best thing is to let things take their own turn. Your premature act has a likely hood of antagonizing her and may result in you loosing her forever. Wait and watch is the key to your relationship if it has to move in a positive direction as you want it and last if you want it that way.

Answer 7

I don't see the harm in "testing the waters" to a point. I would definetly go as far as hugging her, and putting your arm around her shoulder. But before you kiss her I suggest you ask her out (or "let it be apparant to her that you are trying to change the relationship") officially. That way she doesn't feel cheapened by all your free moves.

Answer 8

If you feel like she likes u then u should tell her how u feel. maybe she does like u but she thinks that u dont like her so she's shy u should make the first move. just be open and upfront with her. if u just make a move on her like that like putting ur arm around her waist or shoulder she may feel a little smothered and awkward. but when u tell her how u feel she may be weird 2 b/c u guys have been friends for so long. just give her time 2 let it sink in. an if she turns u down then just wait 4 her 2 come 2 u. dont repeatedly ask her over and over again b/c that will surely make her feel smothered. i really hope this helps u out. good luck!!! oh and btw wait till the right time 2 tell her. whenever u feel is right then just go 4 it.

Answer 9

I would try subtle to put my arm around the shoulders. Then maybe you guys can go for a walk, talk and decide if you like each other. Maybe you can have the first kiss.

Answer 10

#1 Why are you being so scary about it?
#2 If you want her to know that you like her then you should TELL HER BY TALKING TO HER!!!!.
If you are both so close then is should not be a problem because you both like each other. I'm sure she wants to tell you the same thing. Just try. GOOD LUCK