I have known this person for about a year and have very strong feelings for him. We were close for a while (as friends) and now he's 'on-off' with me. He used to confide in me about his girlfriend but now that they've broken up he doesn't confide in me that much. There are little signs that make me think he might like me in that way, but then sometimes he is quite cold. He has had opportunities to tell me how he feels but hasn't said anything, but he has said to me that he could never ask someone out as he's too shy in that way. He can sometimes act cold, and then friendly.
I have really strong feelings for him and feel that I need to get this off my chest. This will obviously ruin our friendship if I tell him(whatever friendship there is) but at least I will be able to move on. I was told that I should maybe keep quiet and hope that someday our friendship will blossom into a proper relationship, but I don't see him enough for that to happen. What shall I do?
2006-09-19 05:12:47 · 30 answers · asked by Gremlin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes tell him life is too short not too, whats the worse that can happen
2006-09-19 05:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I'm feeling the same way as you are right now about my best guy friend. I'm so scared of losing the friendship that i don't want to bring anything serious into it. I feel like I'm gunna bust if i don't saying anything tho...I'm actually thinking this weekend i just might go for it.
i know i could lose him...but if i say nothing and he gets a g/f i don't think i could sit back say nothing and not be jealous..i wouldn't make a very good friend anymore. i guess we will never know unless we do it...GOOD LUCK! :)
2006-09-19 05:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by Criddles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same position as you a short time ago.and i took a chance and sent a text telling him i had fallen for him, i didnt hear from him for weeks and was sure i'd blown it, then out of the blue he got in touch , we now see each other still as very good friends but he knows how i feel and i know i did the right thing letting him know beceause we still have our special friendship and that little bit extra, but its something to build on, I f you don't try you will drive yourself insane. Take a chance you never know.
2006-09-19 11:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by fluffy bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you want to tell him! I might hold off going in feet first with the whole love thing. Why don't you ask him out on a date? Go somewhere just the two of you, have some fun and end the night with a big fat snog!? Well, that's what I'd do anyway!
2006-09-19 05:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Oldfruit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you ask him out for a drink as mates and see what happens. Just blurting out your feelings could ruin your friendship and if you like him that much youd be totally devastated if he rejected you. These things take time but good luck hope everything goes well for you.x
2006-09-19 05:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by *DB* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you pour out your heart and soul, maybe consider going out with him a few times. If he's too shy to ask you out, what's stopping you from asking him? Make the dates very informal and go to a relaxing, fun place you both will enjoy. Things may just naturally evolve from there.
2006-09-19 05:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this particular situation, I would strongly suggest you tell him just how you feel. Perhaps he told you that he's too shy for a reason. Maybe he WANTS you to be upfront if you have feelings for him because he's not really sure if you like him like that or just as a friend.
2006-09-19 05:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by ღஜJuliஜღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him... you have nothing to lose here & everything to gain if he feels the same... if you don't tell him & he gets with someone else you will really regret it... at least if you tell him 7 he doesn't feel the same you'l be able to move on with ur life wit no regrets...
Best of luck,i hope it works out for u...
2006-09-19 10:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 06:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by lagrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep quiet as you may miss the opportunity. Tell him how you feel, if he doesn't feel the same at least you can move on.
Just imagine how you would feel if you never told him and you went the rest of your life regretting it.
Its better to know, than never to know.
2006-09-19 05:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is getting to you, then you have got to tell him, be honest.
tell him how you feel and say you don't want to loose him as a friend whatever happens. he may feel the same like you said and too shy, why wait for someone else to get him when you feel so strongly?
2006-09-19 05:19:31 · answer #11 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋