I need to increase my wifes drive badly. My wife makes me feel like I am an overly horney person for wanting it a few times a week. It is making me feel very unneeded. I have talked to her about it, cleaned the house often, brought home flowers, and given her good massages. I am freash out of ideas. HELP!
2006-09-19 05:10:07 · 22 answers · asked by Paka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There isnt anything YOU can do. A person's sex drive is their one high or low. Its usually a woman's horomones that can cause her to have a low sex drive.
Sounds like you are doing all the right things.. Women are different than men. We like the things you do for us, but more often than not we like for you to talk with us, and listen to what we have to say. All these things you are doing are really nice great things.
I cant concentrate on sex when I am stressed out about the kids, groceries, bills, anything and I used to accuse my husband of being aperv for wanting to have sex all the time. He didnt want it all the time, but he wanted it 3 or 4 times a week. When he realized that when I am bothere about things, stressed out or just tired, I cant concentrate on sex and even if he got it it wasnt the same even for him. He felt like I was just there but that I wasnt enojying myself.. and I wasnt. I was giving him what he wanted.
There could be wide variety of things that are goin on with her.. your best best it to talk to her, and then go from there.
2006-09-19 05:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are lots of things U can do really, starting with being supportive of her no matter what. Having a baby in the home is a big deal, and a lot of a woman's energy is sapped by all those new responsibilities. Since the human brain is a woman's best sex tool. U need to realize that your words of love and acts of kindness go a long way toward putting her in the mood. R U helping with the baby? R U doing the dishes or laundry on a regular basis? Taking her out on dates? Hire a babysitter and set the stage. Be a romantic guy and see what happens! Food and drugs and meds can all affect our sex drive too. Look around for many clues. Be romantic and loving -- not just horny.
2016-03-17 22:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I don't know why some peoples' sex drive is stronger than others. I personally believe that sex is necessary as part of a loving, lasting relationship. It's one of the things that keeps relationships strong - the tangible act of affirming your love and desire for the other person. Of course you can affirm your love by "being there for them" and doing things for them, but that does nothing towards helping the need for intimacy, for knowing that you are still wanted, still desirable. So how does my opinion help you? I'm not sure - have you been able to explain to your wife why sex is so important to you, that it's not just a carnal need? That's the best I can do - I hope it helped.
2006-09-19 05:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think by kissing her a** you will increase her sex drive.
You sound like a really great husband. I would suggest a few marriage counseling sessions. Maybe then she can see what's going on and perhaps where the problem is. Good Luck.
2006-09-19 05:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about you but if you have been married a long time and your wife is pretty open minded maybe she is just a bored in the bed room (no offense) try some porn, leave love notes on her pillow, call her during the day and let her know how how sexy she is and what you'd like to do to her when you get home. Spice it up a little
2006-09-19 05:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is either really stressed about something, maybe doesn't feel comfortable with herself/body, or the worst one, does not want to be in the relationship anymore. Just maybe give her some space and let her figure out what she needs. If you already talked to her about it and she never told you anything, its probably something she needs to figure out herself. In the meantime, be very emotionally supportive of her and tame your sex drive for abit...if you cannot tame it, than treat her like a QUEEN in the sack, oral sex, soft kisses, touches, if she likes it rough than take her to town..kiss her neck, be passionate, ya know all the good stuff ;) She will come around sooner or later.
2006-09-19 05:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you say you've "talked to her about it" - does that mean she told you why she doesn't want it as much as you do? Maybe sit is your approach - it's not like "I do this, this and this for you - now I should get this..." It is understanding what turns her on - what sort of touch, when, where...don't jump into bed and grab her - seduction - slow and teasing is good - have foreplay all night long! Try just cuddling and snuggling too - you have to find out what her love language is and what her expectations of a sexual relationship is.
2006-09-19 05:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by JannahLee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women can't just turn on the sexual attitude like men can; you need to basically get her interested in sex like when you first met. Also, make things more exciting IN bed, not on the way up to it; you want her to get excited for something that could happen. For instance, follow up on your oral skills; buy a new toy, tie her up, etc...
There are a lot of things you can do...just use your imagination.
2006-09-19 05:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, sounds like you are doing all the right things. Maybe she just has a low sex drive. Or maybe she's bored with your sex life. Spice it up, and I can't emphasize this enough: MORE ORAL!!!!
2006-09-19 05:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 00:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋