I'm in my freshman year of college with two kids. Tremaine and Tyrian. Tremaine is 4 and Tyrain is 9 months. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 years and he is the father of both my kids. He wants to get married. Should I get married or wait until I graduate from college? He is in his freshman year of college also. We both can support ourselves and he is a great father. But I am questionable about marriage. Any suggestions?
2006-09-19 05:09:12 · 11 answers · asked by babyjay_babyjae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We don't live together and he goes to a completely different college than me.
2006-09-19 05:15:13 · update #1
I don't see why not! What makes the difference if you're garduated or not?
Only you know why and what you are questioning! (Are you questioning him or you???) So without more info on what things you are questioning can't say other then why not! Sounds like a good plan to me and sounds like you may just be fearing the unknown...
2006-09-19 08:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say follow your heart. It seems like you are unsure and as Oprah says: "Doubt means don't". I really live by that quote and I think it is 100% true. Tell him you wanna be settled down and out of school with both of you in the same household before marraige. It's best for you 2 and the kids to have that stability before marrying. Good Luck...
2006-09-19 12:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning marriage then you should wait. I can tell you love him and it's great that he is a good father, but you both have a lot going on with school and such.
If you are questioning this in your heart wait..
But I will tell you there is no problem being engaged until you both graduate.
2006-09-19 12:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are going good for you both right now then I would say wait. If it's that great then it will still be there when you graduate. He will always be there father and marriage won't change that. Good Luck
2006-09-19 12:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you say "I am questionable about marriage" says it all.
Something is holding you back --- better figure it out and then talk it over with your boyfriend before you even think about tying the knot. You have two boys to take into consideration, you need to do what is good everyone, not just you, not just your boyfriend, not just your sons ... but everyone.
2006-09-19 12:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning marraige after 6 yrs with this man then there is a problem you're not telling us about. If he is as great as you say and you have children with him and have been living as husband and wife than why no make it official?
2006-09-19 12:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Monique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u still want 2 waitting 4?
2006-09-19 16:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might wanna just go ahead and get married and make everything complete and live as an whole family.
2006-09-19 12:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by sicwidit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try living together first.. it's a good idea i think before you think about marriage
2006-09-19 12:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is simple.....the bond called marriage... you don't need help.you need a church with priest.
2006-09-19 12:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋