It is a joke that pepole use to justify calling it quits when the going got tough. In my neighborhood, three couples, the husband and the new wife live down the street from the ex wife and kids. I believe that is a bit sick. But hey, this is do what you want America.
I am not saying that you should enemies. Why not like cordial people on a bus?
2006-09-19 04:48:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
family members, my friends and buddies are not the same as a spouse. Too obvious to explain.
2006-09-19 05:01:38 · update #1
Odd thinking. Friends have respect , trust and have reverence for one another and will do things to help one another. Souds like teh start of a good marriage and the exact things that those divorcing say are missing. Some of the answers here make clear why marriage means nothing anymore. All so casual and ho hum about it all.
2006-09-19 05:04:09 · update #2
Odd thinking. Friends have respect , trust and have reverence for one another and will do things to help one another. Souds like teh start of a good marriage and the exact things that those divorcing say are missing. Some of the answers here make clear why marriage means nothing anymore. All so casual and ho hum about it all.
2006-09-19 05:04:15 · update #3
Seriously. I don't understand it myself. I understand getting along because of the children, or just not being mad about the divorce anymore, but friends? To me that's just silly.
And weird, I mean, you were intimate with that person, you are with someone else and you invite them to cookouts? Seriously twisted, I just don't get it.
2006-09-19 04:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "ex" relationship is different from ordinary "friendship", as well as from dealing with the people on the bus. Some ex's are at each other's throats, and can't stand each other; others are harboring unresolved feelings, and are "friends" because they cannot let go. But I believe there's a happy medium - once you let go of the bitterness and the unresolved stuff, you're sometimes left with an essence of what once kept you together, and this essence is not necessarly bad. I think this is what some people call "being friends" with an ex. And no, it doesn't follow that just because you can maintain the friendly relationship you might as well stay married. Most people whom I maintain friendships with to a various degree (my family members, my friends and buddies, my co-workers, etc) I could not live with full-time, but I enjoy their company nevertheless.
2006-09-19 04:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does everyone think that a spouse is any differnt from any other family member. I love my mom, but I can't live with her. We get a long great when we don't live in the same house, when we live together we fight all of the time. No siblings here, but know many friends that have said the same thing about brothers and sisters of all ages.
2006-09-19 04:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't know anyone who is still friendly with their ex's. The reason why I have and ex was because he was mean, hateful, and abusive. I don't want to be friend's with him. I of course am courteous because of our child. I can't imagine how people who divorce can still be friends. More power to the people who can be. I just can't function that way.
2006-09-19 04:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may desire to signify that the friendship which she had with you is in jeapordy and he or she is conscious it. it may desire to signify that she feels the friendship she had with you is lost considering she feels you no longer evaluate her a chum of long status. In different words she is conscious you do no longer approve of her marrying your ex and having a toddler and feels she has lost your friendship simply by this marriage. do no longer you think of that your long status friendship is well worth protecting and salvaging although she married your ex? Why enable what she did hardship you simply by fact it would not have something to do with you yet purely your ex? Why could desire to you care if she marries your ex or no longer? i does no longer yet i does no longer enable something like that come between me and my sturdy pal of two many years. Why could desire to you? provide her the earnings of the doubt and forget what occurred and start up up renewing your friendship.
2016-10-17 06:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by lagrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i could answer this question we'd both be happy...my husband and i get along just fine since he's decided there is no way of reconciling our marriage...he say's our problems are 90% his fault , loves me, thinks i am an exellant mother....we go on vacations together...spend family time on weekends...but he refuses to continue being married......oh well, his loss now he watches the kids while i go out on a date...whatever makes him happy i guess
2006-09-19 05:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by chereeder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont hate my EX , and i must admit a part of me will always love him .. True love will never die .
but i agree with you here completely !
theres just no reason to stay friends . we couldnt get along will enouph to fix our marriage ... what do we need each other for now that our lifes are separate ?
im not nasty and mean ,, i am civil , when our paths cross , but to be bestfirends now ... is just crazey .
2006-09-19 04:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's sad. . .but, people have a lack of devotion today.
It's that simple.
If they could be friends than they could have worked togehter to make their realtionship stronger.
It's sad. . .but, it will likely never change. . .it's customary now that people just "live" with such lack of understanding of what LOVE really means in this life.
2006-09-19 04:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that its pretty cool that people can be friends when thier marriage ends, i think that they really need to get along because of the kids.people sometimes get along better when they dont have to live togather, and then they can give thier best attitudes to thier children instead of talking bad about thier other parent.
2006-09-19 05:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some people can be good freinds but cant just live together. TO forgive is to open up to new opportunities
2006-09-19 05:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by whitewizard888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋