My boyfriend decided he dident want to be with me because I have a chronic illness.I'm horribly depressed.
2006-09-19 04:40:36 · 15 answers · asked by rxqueen♥ † 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just do know what to do.
Once I got ill, he started going out all the time and he avoided me all the time and now this. Once I was diagnosed and the doctor said it wouldent go away, I guess he decided he had to go away.
2006-09-19 04:46:05 · update #1
Step1. Well..cry as much as you can. Get a piece of paper and write all those bloody angry words you would like to say to him for hurting you this way. Burn that paper away on a nice and quiet night. Then, write it again and repeat the process untill you dont feel angry anymore. After that, write why you think you should forgive him. And burn the paper..repeat the process till you feel ok. Get over it and Let go.
Step2. Get a new hairdo. Shop for new songs. Get a new dress. Hang out with friends. Go to a party and talk about new topics. Criticize a guy with the experience you had with your previous relationship. Go for a manicure or better still a SPA. Enjoy your life and laugh more. Do things which says 'I love myself'. Get the idea?
Step3. Mix around with positive freinds...hang out more..and eventually..you'd meet someone who really loves and care for you no matter what condition you are in. Take your time.
2006-09-19 04:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by whitewizard888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. You need to be angry, not depressed.
Get angry and make your life something to be envied. Find happiness on your own terms - you don't need another person to make you feel good about yourself. Your goal should be running into him in a few years, happy and loving life. When you see him and he sees you all vibrant with life, he'll wish he had never left you.
By then, you will have reached a new happy place in your life and you'll be surprised to feel no interest in him at all. You will see him for what he really is and you'll know then it was all for the best.
2006-09-19 04:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember that line from a movie "the only one you have to live your whole life with is yourself?" Don't you think you're better off without someone like that? Remember that we're all just passing through here, so enjoy the time allotted to you, and forget about him as soon as you can. but i'm sorry for your pain, and about your illness. Hope you are feeling better very soon.
2006-09-19 04:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Harris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I know how you feel girl. Well on good thing is that he did't do this after you were married. Step 1 you need to surround yourself by friends and family Trust me you may not want anyone around but you need people around you so the can help hold you up and get you to do things . You don't need to lock your self up. You need to get out of the house and show off that your fine . Don't rush yourself in another relationship unless you feel comfortable some people and use another guy to get there mind off te last one but you got to do what feels right to you don't pressure your self in to finding another guy right now . you need to get up with the girls go out make a coffe date or rent a bunch of movies a veg out . good luck i know it's hard but a can promise u this it does get easier good luck girl.
Also you need to keep in mind that if he was not man enough to be with you and help you with you depresson then you deffently don't need him you deseve so much better
2006-09-19 04:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by monkey32621 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh that makes me so mad!!! What a *&^%$#! he is! The going gets tough and the tough go running??? Whatever!!! Such a wimp he is... no character or integrity or anything! Golliwogs the size of peas!!!
Okay I'm done ranting.
Get a dog. If you are allergic to dogs, take a pill. A dog is so unbelievably theraputic you won't understand until you get one.
My heart goes out to you.
2006-09-19 05:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that someone that would leave you in your time of need is not the person that you would need to be with. You need someone that will stay with you and there are guys out there like that.
2006-09-19 04:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by kmichelle89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always just kept myself busy. I always have just kept hanging out with my friends...every night. Don't speak to your ex, don't go around your ex. You just have to make your life totally empty of him. So you can move on....you can't move on if you keep being around him. Stay busy and just have as much fun as possible. Try not to be alone keep yourself surrounded by friends & family. Always worked for me :o)
2006-09-19 04:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by hey :o) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry darling....Just forget about the idiot he is not with you in this situation is because he dont want to share his life with you......a parter is not only for the fun times we need a shoulder to cry and a man who support us.......a real man
2006-09-19 04:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by haki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try changing your routine... going places, doing things... try to focus on something new and different to occupy your time and thought... Then it boils down to time... I wish I could give you an easy answer, but so far I have never found one...
2006-09-19 04:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend in the same boat.It surely was not true love,find new hobbies new friends.May peace rest on your shoulders.
2006-09-19 04:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋