My bf and I of 2 years, just celabrated our anniversary and had a great time. Came back and well... I don't know if he likes me anymore. It's easy to know someone loves you but I feel he almost hates me or regrets me or I don't know...
Im getting sick of it. It's getting hard to study for classes and everything like that and when he leaves I find myself just wanting to ball my eyes out today. I think he hates me.
When you get arguements sometimes people say things, how do you know if it's how they feel? I don't think he wants me anymore.
If I left for a weekend and just left a note, would that give him the oppurtunity to figure it out, or would it be a waste of my time as well?
Talking and communication has reached a point where it doesn't effect a thing in our relationship. Neither do our promises to eachother. It's just gotten sour and bitter like lemons...
When you can't discuss it, does an action resolve everything for better or worst? Is this what he needs?
2006-09-19 04:39:07 · 9 answers · asked by Poestalker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actions meant everything !!!!!!! Words are nice to hear but most people just say that they will change just so they dont have to hear about the subject anymore. I have found that if the relation ship gets old in just a year or more then its not really love problems are normal as early as the first 3 months. But after a year and you feel that bad then its time to get serious about the situation let him know that he needs to show more or your gone i know its hard but if things dont change now its only going to get worse
2006-09-19 04:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by ASH YA DIGG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time apart, but don't just up and leave. Talk to him about it first. Things are obviously not working out so you two need to decide what's the next step. Is it worth trying to make the relationship work or not. You two need to sit down and talk first. Abruptly leaving will just add salt to the wound and make matters worst. Tell him that obviously the relationship is not working the way you had planned and you want to know what's the next step for both of you. Or just tell him what you want. Ask him how he feels about the relationship and if he's willing to try and make it work or not. There's still questions to be answered so don't just leave. Sit him down and figure out what's the next step in this failing relationship.
2006-09-19 11:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know sweety, you just made me cry.....
If you don't have communication you don't have anything. People should never say things in anger they don't mean, its bullshit that they do. Your intuition is probably right on target......I felt my husband didn't respect me for a very long time, not until months after we seperated did I actually tell him how I had felt for 13 to 15 years......you know what he said? He said I was right, he hadn't respected me until I started working in a particular job two years before we seperated. That ended it, you see all those years little things would happen that would make me sick to my stomach and tell me it wasn't in my head...only he let me think it was.......If your gut instinct is he doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you.....or he just doesn't like you.....leave, end it now before it breaks you down further. If you can talk about it, great....but its not going to change how he has felt or the time you have wasted thinking it was all in your head. Good luck babe and go with your instinct here.
2006-09-19 11:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As "?" said, it can help or it can end it. If you leave and dont say where you're going or what you're doing.....then he may jump to the conclusion that you're going to be messing around with someone else....and right there, he really would hate you. But at the same time, you dont really WANT to tell him you're not going to be doing anything, because that will just cause him to say "Okay, I have no thing to worry about so who cares....".......and he wont think much of reflecting or thinking time............it's kind of something.......you may just want to say I need a little bit of time to myself to figure out what I want in life and out of this relationship. He may get a lil worried if he really cares and then he will be thinking right as you hope. Kinda something you just have to go through with to really know the true answer.....as everyone is different.
2006-09-19 11:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are said in anger that can never be taken back, the damage is done, I think young people today really try to hard to find love and worry too much about it at this young part of their life, I told each of my daughters ( I have 4 ) to travel and have fun with a group of friends, because once you settle down with one person,, you no longer have friends to hang out with and have fun,, everyone seems to go their own ways.
2006-09-19 11:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you guys should take a break...if tlaking isnt solving anything,then theres no point of going away for a weekend.and even if you do, your problems are going to be waiting for you when you come back.so i think you two should call a break and sort some things out.
2006-09-19 11:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already feel this way this soon, break it off! No need to string along either of you!
2006-09-19 11:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it helps, sometimes its the end of the relationship.
2006-09-19 11:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~Its realy hard to say..you need to give him something to think about while your gone...talk on the phone when you are gone...and maybe you need to think about what you can do to help the problem...it takes two to work out things one cant do it on their own..good luck!~~~~~~> ;o)
2006-09-19 11:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by dreamzzz102 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋