how can i know its ok 4 her?
2006-09-19 04:37:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't understand how you'd be hurting her by telling her that? You are giving her the option to say "No" aren't you? I think she should be flattered but of course I'm a man!
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2006-09-19 04:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of... do you not like this girl? Cause if you dont like her... sleeping with her is the best way to get rid of her. Why not make the emotional commitment first? I think it is wrong to just try to sleep with someone. You will mess up your friendship by doing this. If you really like her as a friend.. find another booty call.
IN RESPONSE TO YOUR MESSAGE TO ME.
I disagree....right now you just want a booty call. Plain and simple. However, you will risk losing your friendship if you ask or sleep with her. If you are willing to risk your friendship.... by all means ask her just for a booty call. The fact that you are willing to sleep with her.... and nothing else makes it just a booty call. Once you ask the question... if she turns you down... she will think any time you do anything nice for her... you are looking to sleep with her... so you will lose your friend. If she does sleep with you... and it is not just out of this world wonderful sex.... there will always be a discomfort there..... so you will again.... lose your friend. If it is out of this world sex and she wants more of a commitment that you are not willing to make...... you will gain a booty call girl... but again lose a friend because she will become too needy or demanding.
Maybe I am too old school.... but I really do think there should be no sex without some sort of emotional commitment.
I really hope you will look elsewhere for your booty call until you are willing to make a commitment to her emotionally as well. A peice of *** is just not worth losing a friend over.
2006-09-19 04:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by TAZZLOVER8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my (m) friend...if you don't think she's interested in doing IT with you maybe you should just leave it alone. Asking for sex is the weakest thing you can do. There needs to be mutual attraction and more than just friendship. If you really want to do it with (not just to) her, lead into it naturally and romantically. If you feel her rejecting or pulling away from you at all...stop there. It means that she's not into you in that way. Once you get into that "friends" status with a girl, it's hard to transfer to a "lover" status...unless you're hot as fire and have all the other girls in the area beating on your door to get some of your hot ***.
2006-09-19 04:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how old/mature you both are. And also, when pondering this matter, figure out if you can ask such a question without hurting *yourself*. How will you react if she is not interested? Will you be able to shrug off that rejection and continue to be friends with her, or will you obsess about what you can't have?
A few years ago, I confessed to one of my friends that I was attracted to him. He told me his feelings for me were purely platonic. I got over it, he got over it (if in fact I offended him by saying anything), and we're still friends. But we were both in our late 20s when that happened. I wouldn't have been able to handle it that well when I was a teenager - y'know, back then, rejection was just the end of the woooooooorrld!
2006-09-19 04:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your good on very almost each factor i additionally experience shes hoping that sometime he will do away with u and take her. She is hateful at that shes no longer even an impressive guy or woman. Ask your husband what he ever seen in her as a pal because of the fact she is impolite and unfriendly to u and u might think of that on my own might offend him. tell him u constantly felt vibes approximately her yet couldnt placed your finger on it yet now because of the fact u understand experience she has a weigh down on him and doesnt like u because of the fact he chosen u over her. Ask him if he can think of of the different reason she might act like she does. perhaps sometime u can tell her that u and your husband r very close and u understand regarding the sexual fling that they had and say how can u sleep with somebody u arent in love with that u think of it kinda bizarre. See what she says at on a similar time as your at it ask her how come she has constantly been properly distant with u and can that have a reason she is that way. See what happens and confident I extremely have been pals with a sexual substantial different of my husbands we werent close in spite of if it grew to become into thirty yrs in the past so and that they have got been immature and what i call skanky so go parent.
2016-10-15 04:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by dopico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you have feelings for her and would like to be more than friends. you will never know if it's ok, just go out on a limb. if this doesn't work tell her you would like to be friends with benefits.
2006-09-19 04:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cosmopolitan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would like to sleep with her.Stop taking advantage of her before you are ready for commitment. Is no play play game my friend.
2006-09-19 04:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by wan2knowhow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean hurting her...let me know how you say it without insulting her...women get hurt for everything..
2006-09-19 04:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a move and see how she reacts let nature take its course
2006-09-19 04:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll know when u "put it in" and it doesnt hurt!
2006-09-19 04:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by Shnitzel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋