when did you know that your marriage was over? and did u have kids? and how did it all go at the end are you guys friends?
2006-09-19 04:28:56 · 10 answers · asked by lisaslife02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though she was cheating on me it wasn't truely over untile I knew that all she was tring to do is use me as a fall back plan if her current b/f didn't want her. Thats when I knew it was over. We get along as well as my tolerance of her lets me. I wouldn't call us friends but we do keep in touch because of the kids. I do what I can to be civil about eveything. It is a very weird relationship. One minute we can be at each other argueing up a storrm and later that day we can be like "hey can you watch the kids for me" and all is okay. It is just stress and frustration with life now as a whole. I have custody of our 3 girls. We are going to court because she wants custody (actually it is because she doesn't want to pay me child support). It has been 2 months that we have been waiting for the court date and I have not held it against her that she is going to court. But it burns a hole in me that she won't give me the $30 pair of school shoes back. Its weird.
2006-09-19 04:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew it was done when he cheated on me,I am a ferm believer in no matter what you do not go out side the marriage. In the event that's what you want then end it and then go do your thing, but you will never come back because you chose the chicken s---way out. Yes we had a children 1 grown and gone, the twins only 2yrs left at home then they were gone,but the youngest was only 4 and raised pretty much as a single child her father and I chose to remain friends and now are 100% best friends and have been for about 8 years now. I can tell you in making this choice I never downed him to my daughter or had an argument in front of her and her father gave me the same respect, and because of this our 14 year old is the most loving,stable,secure and happy child also a honor roll student. She had the best out of a bad situation her father very much a part of her life and parents that got along great to gather. So always remember it's about the children and it can be done try it and you'll see it makes for a better union all the way around and the kids will LOVE you for it. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-19 11:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by SANCY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came home from work and she said I want a divorce ! (she met a guy on the internet) No talking about it...So she divorced me and left. Three kids involved 19,18.and 15. The two older ones were mostly on thier own,,the youngest stayed with Dad. 4yrs have passed and she found out that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. Today we are friends and get along ok,but thats it. She broke my heart and we'll never get back together. My life now if good.
2006-09-19 21:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by R W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is often a way people use to avoid the "for better or worse" stuff.
Marriages go in cycle and take work. REAL WORK. My wife and I separated and were divorced for 2 years because she was having some major emotional issues and didn't want to work on the relationship. I gave it time, the relationship healed and we got back together.. People like instant gratification. No fault divorce is just that. A temporary fix to personality issues.
I think divorce should be much harder to obtain, except in situations of infidelity, abuse or addiction..
2006-09-19 12:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, I knew 3 months into the marriage that is was not going to work. I was young and so was he. Thank god we did not have any kids. I have not seen him since the day I left him. Since then I have heard he has a new wife and 8 kids. OMG. better her than me :)
2006-09-19 11:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I she cheated on me a second time. Nope, we didn't have any kids. Nope, not friends. We tried the whole friend thing but that just got ugly in the end and made me end up hating her even more.
2006-09-19 11:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew about 2 years before I left, we didn't talk or sleep together any more and when we did it was like a chore. We have 2 a boy and a girl. It was bad at first but we get along fine now
2006-09-19 11:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked myself if I wanted to live the rest of my life the way it was. The answer was no. Yes. Now we are friends.
2006-09-19 11:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
knew a couple years before we actually split,, with my second it was pretty much right away as her 15 yo son broke out of jail and she sent him bus ticket to come live with us,, I knew then it was over,
2006-09-19 11:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant tell you how i felt .
as far as kids NO . niether of us wanted children , so i never became pregnant .
Friends ???
NO WAY !
we are now each others EXs , theres no reason to remain friends !
2006-09-19 11:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋