ok me n my best friend we are attracted to each other...we are both girls...the problem is dat she has a boyfriend...but we still attracted to each other...now i would rather wait for her to break up wit ol'dude dere but at the same time i wanna b wit her....does dat make me a bad person??n wut should i do about it?
2006-09-19 04:25:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your best bet is to talk to her about both of your feelings for each other and make your feelings perfectly clear...
You do not want to end a freindship over this... and at the same time you dont want to miss out on a potential life partner.. but you also dont want to start something on the heals of deciet and that is what you would be doing if you started this in the middle of her cheating on her current bofriend...
so allow her the time to end her current situation before starting something with you.. also that starts something with you that will be more pure and joyous beause it wont be so tainted by a start of a cheating relationship that starts on misstrust.
If you start a relationship with someone that is still in a relationship with someone else sometimes it can put misstrust in your mind for them even thou you think it wont.. because you know they already cheated once.. and then you think later could they do the same to me?
so just talk to her about it.. and figure out where to go from here.. and allow her the time to tie up her loose ends first...
that way you have something that is pure and just... not tainted and currupted by cheating and sneakyness and lies....
You will be happier for it later..
2006-09-19 04:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didnt study all the wall of text cloth yet by the seems of it you would be able to prefer some psychological help. in any case....If ya love the poor guy you're taking him as he's likewise provide him some area, he isn't a techniques reading robotic, he's a human who additionally has desires and needs. additionally, communication is your pal
2016-10-17 06:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by lagrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you a bad person to WANT to be with her even though she has a boyfriend. It would make you a bad person if you WERE with her while she has a boyfriend. I don't care the circumstances... if someone is already taken, then you should not be "with" them.
2006-09-19 09:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to urinate on the side of my employers building, but I don't. Just because we want to do something bad doesn't make us a bad person. It's only bad if you act on those thoughts of infidelity. If she's going to leave him for you, wait for her to break up with him.
2006-09-19 08:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no that doesn't make you a bad person...but what the...are you w8in 4....you both r feelin each other and the chemistry is there...i think u should go fo' yours.....no doubt....but on tha real when you do...let me know how it turns out....i know that everything ain't what it should be wit her dude if she feelin u like dat....do u
2006-09-19 05:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by jen4802051709 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The other option is consign yourself to a non-exclusive relationship. If she gets jealous of your other interests, then you could sit down for a talk on exclusivity.
2006-09-19 04:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does she want to break up with her boyfriend?
if you like her, there is nothing wrong with that, if she broke up with her boyfriend just make sure it's what she wants and because she feels happier with you and love you.
there is nothing you can do, just talk to her. ok? ;)
2006-09-19 04:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by classy naima 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is secretly trying to hook up with you behind his back, then yes wait for them to break up. Its called cheating. If she is willing to cheat on him she would be willing to cheat on you. SO WAIT...
2006-09-19 05:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your best bet is for both of you to follow your hearts. if she stay's with him for a safty net or to look str8 to everyone els she is just living a lie and won't be happy
2006-09-19 04:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first of all you dont want her to break up with him for you cause she will do the same thing to you....If they break up on their own then ok go for it......
2006-09-19 05:11:47 · answer #10 · answered by I dont trust no Bush but my own. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋