why do people dislike honesty so much?

Question

it doesnt matter whether it is in a romantic, personal, or business relationship people always say they like an honest person, however, when confronted with the truth, people often get offended. Not that i actually try to hurt feelings or make people angered i just say things the way they come to mind. i give an actual honest opionion. i just dont understand.

and before you jacka.sses correct my spelling.. i didnt spell opinion correctly.

Answer 1

Its sad but true. People say they want the truth but they can't stomach anything they don't want to hear. Its just pathetic weakness. People are unwilling to examine themselves becasue that would mean they would have to acknowledge their flaws and maybe expend some energy and willpower to address them. Its easier to sit your *** in front of the TV and eat a Big Mac.

Answer 2

Honesty is a virtue and I'm sure that nobody dislikes it. In your case, I would rather say that you are very frank and honest in your own right and there's nothing wrong with that. However, honesty and frankness calls for the right timing and tactfulness in imparting them.

Some people, more especially when in a crowd, are offended by people who say things about them with frankness and honesty because they don't see them as honest remarks but as a form of humiliation.

So, you can be very honest and frank at the same time but make sure that you do it properly with the intention of being true to yourself and to the other person concerned without any inhibition. If you want, you may read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People which is a very informative book on human relations. I believe that the next time you say an honest opinion about somebody, you may no longer offend that person because by then, you will be able to incorporate honesty, frankness and human relations at the same time. Presto! You will still be free to say what you want about and to anybody without offending him in the process. Then you will know that honesty is really a virtue that everybody should possess and like.

Answer 3

We are all trained to mask the reality. When in pain we mask. You have money. Do you advertise to the whole world you have so much of money? Happiness is OK. Discretion is also valor. Certain times lying is being civil. If I am honest I will tell people their fly is open. One has to draw a line between honesty and dishonesty. No honest person becomes a politician, I swear, in the given setup, or great surgeon for that matter. Honesty should be strictly between loved people, between teacher and taught and the like. Honesty pays in the long run, in obeying the laws, cultural values and one's consciousness. Honestly, it is a volatile subject and I wish I never answered.

Answer 4

I think people want honesty but honesty is very hard to take most of the time. We are an imperfect world with imperfect people and honesty tells it like it is. What they really want to say is they want a person with integrity. Someone who is honest where it counts but tactful where they need to be. I am known as a very candid person also. I have had bosses who admired me for it one minute and got angry with me another. But in their minds they knew I was right they just did not like to hear what I said. The ones with integrity would come back and agree with me. Children are brutally honest because they have not yet learned how to be tactful or dishonest. I taught my children to be honest but kind. Tell the person in the nicest way possible the truth when they ask.

Answer 5

I think most people are hurt, not because of the honesty part, but bluntness. Many people mistake being honest for being really blunt, which can come off really mean. Another reason is because when people ask for someone to be honest with them, they mean, 'Don't hide stuff from me, or wait until the last minute to tell me you're cheating' ect. Some people will hear someone ask them to be honest to them, and they always seem to wait until the worst moment to talk. Now they were honest, but they were honest after being really secretive or after something bad has already happend, instread of confronting it before it got that bad.

Answer 6

People are brought up to think they can do no wrong. So when confronted with something outside of their "opinion" they get very offended....As if "No, I"M SMARTER THAN YOU!!!!" and there confrontation starts.

People in America are for the most part quite arrogant and can't take the least bit of criticism. They feel every one is indebted to them. They are brought up to think they are "special" but in all reality they are no more "special" than a severely retarded kid.

I mean take the issues of racism...Have you seen or heard the kind of "jokes" races other than white make about whites? But once you point out the hypocrisy your just being "racist"...No, you're being honest. The fact that they are so fragile and easily cry at the slightest off-color joke about their race but have no problems bashing whites...Makes them racist, in there terms...And also hypocrites. But they will deny it till they turn blue in the face...That is if you could see the color blue in their face! Whats this? I made an off-color joke! Oh my God, get ready for the offended remarks and calls of racism!....Just proves my point.

(psst, I'm not even white)

Answer 7

Because it sounds a little like you need to be introduced to tact. I like to think of myself as an honest person, but I know how to use tact, while being honest and nobody gets offended. All you have to do is keep in mind and think about b4 u say anything- just ask urself- will this hurt them? Is there another way I can go about saying this? If someone said this to me, how would I react? Use a bit of empathy- all you'll have to do is rephrase.

Answer 8

Because the truth hurts... :) But a lie actually hurts worse after it is found out... People are too quick to think that the person confronting them with something (be it good or bad) that is the truth, believes that person is out to get them. And people are prideful... no one likes a jab at their pride...

Answer 9

Saying things that come to mind isn't honesty, it's tactlessness. I know because I have that disease also. I always say exactly the wrong thing at the wrong time. Being honest doesn't mean you say the first thing that comes out of your mouth. Being honest means that you answer with your heart. That you think about things and then talk about them.

Answer 10

Because truth hurts.
Actually not all people dislike honesty. If your opinion is honest and constructive, I don't see why people would reject it. They might feel a little stung at first but they will come round.