he says this when we argue over the littlest things and says if he had the money he would file for the divorce. is he just being an *** or is he serious? we have been married almost 8yrs
2006-09-19 04:04:11 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he says it every time you argue over anything and hasn't apoligized and told you he didn't mean it then yea he wants a divorce, in fact it sounds like hes creating arguments so that he can bring it up. He sounds like he's not man enough to camly tell you in a face to face serious talk. So he's creating problems and saying it hoping you will take the hint and leave and give him the divorce.
Next time he says it call him on it and say okay, get your things and get out, I'll have my attorney send you the papers. If he wasnt serious he will not leave and plead with you to forgive him. If he is serious he will take you up on it. He maybe be cheating on you and instead of going ahead and leaving you he wants to make it look like you two got a divorce first.
2006-09-19 04:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dig mommy sometimes we say things that we really don't mean but check this out u really won't know the answer until something like u just falling back totally and watching his movements from afar meaning take a break from the marriage thing for a min...u dig go ya separate ways and then and only then will u see the truth if he holla back at u during your little time apart he doesn't mean it at all and just saying it to FU^% wit u and your mental ya heard lovely that's how u have to deal with your hubby maybe he's kind of tired b/c of the fact that u guys been together for a while and need a break just to see how strong your love is for each other don't accept the B.S there are plenty people out there for u love u dig what that one man don't cherish the next will love it like it's NEW REAL TALK...
2006-09-19 04:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by lorenzo d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya sweetie,
first I would say that he is saying in a not so suttle way that he is seeing someone else. Not only does he not love you anymore but he has been seeing someone on the side. Now, of course I could be wrong but if I am then he is just a big time jerk and wants to provoke a response from you. But since I am a man I would say he is definately planning to leave you, the best bet for you is maybe when your both on level ground and your both in a good mood you could confront him and bring it up. Ask him if he is serious about wanting a divorce. One way to be coy about it is the next time he says it you could always test the waters and say maybe his girlfriend could pay for it. Watch his reaction.
2006-09-19 04:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by brazilman37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him u want a divorce the next time u argue over petty stuff and see how he reacts, chances are he is very serious and wants the divorce.
2006-09-19 04:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Nthape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should call his bluff. File for legal seperation and see what he does. He sounds like he keeps flipping the divorce card whenever he is mad. It amazes me how goofy people are. It sounds like he doesn't know the difference between a disagreement and a final seperation. Let him recieve the papers and you will find out if he still loves you. If he still does, get counceling, he is unhappy about something.
2006-09-19 04:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends when he says it i think if he only says it when you argue then no he doesn't really mean it then again if you come home and complain about the littlest things it can get annoying that may be one of the reasons he says it or he likes somebody else
2006-09-19 04:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by dan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is torment for you. My husband has said this to me and I simply said, "Then leave! Don't let money stop you. Hell, I'll pay to have the papers drawn up and all you'll have to do is sign at the dotted line!" He didn't leave and he's never said it again! Don't let him drag you down. He might be acting like an a$$ but you don't have to take that. Words hurt and it makes you doubt his love for you!
Good Luck!!
2006-09-19 04:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth usually comes out in anger, fear or drunkeness. So be on your toes start saving some money, he dont know about, just in case. Talk with him about it and if he continues, go see a marriage counselor if you wanna save your marriage. If not tell him to get f***** and go see a lawyer.
2006-09-19 04:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by RHONDA P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find the money, borrow the money, whatever, give it to him and tell him to file away! Get as much money as you can from this insecure moron and run the other way. You will be MUCH happier without him, even if it doesn't seem like it right now.
2006-09-19 04:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Start talking to attorneys and getting information on divorce. That way he will see that if that is what he really wants, then you will make it happen. With all of the options of divorce (ie. mediation) it really doesn't cost that much anymore.
2006-09-19 04:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋