2006-09-19 04:03:21 · 26 answers · asked by Heather C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give it a little time. It will happen when its supposed to. Enjoy one another for a bit. Have fun, dont use protection. If it happens its time. If it doesnt, enjoy the moment. I hope you are blessed with healthy, awesome children.
2006-09-19 04:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly V 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I`ve been married for a whole bunch of years and started having children as soon as we were married in 1982. Ive been raising children my entire married life. Out of six children the oldest 25 and the youngest 8. It has been a very consuming task of love. as you know, the shift from single life to married is one jump that requires a lot of adjustment and fine tuning that can not be done in a year, it should take a couple afew years to get to know the other as a married partner then move into the next phase which would be parenting. Believe me some traits dont surface in your spouse for along time and you might decide not to have children at all with that individual, LOL. I hope that doesnt happen. If you insist on moving into parenthood before getting settled with your new marriage then you just have to multitask, and do both at the same time. That is a hand full, ask any parent who has been there and done that. You truly have to be a parent at heart, because your own self gratifications will be the hardest things to fullfill once the kids come and require all of your undivided attention. It can be fun, just stay young by making time for your self with moms day or night out, you must not let child rearing lose your identity. Your emotional health is very important to the whole family. My suggestion,,,,, enjoy life with the spouse for a couple of years first, so you`ll have some special memories of times with just each other and when you actually were able to go out and just ahve some fun without paying a baby sitter or calling on a relative, and you can still drive around in that 2 seater sports car and not a minivan.
Good Luck and God Bless you in your lifes adventure.
Jim
2006-09-19 11:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a newly married couple should wait. It gives time to learn about each other as a married couple before bringing a child into the mix.
2006-09-19 11:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a decision that you need to make as a couple. Every situation is different. Some people have been seeing each other for YEARS before they get married and end up having children right away, some people have a short engagement and have children a few years later. Just depends.
I recommend waiting two years before having children.
2006-09-19 11:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and i waited a few years before having a child. when you are newly married you should take the time to enjoy each other first and make sure everything is good with you two before bringing a new life into the world. Marriage is hard enough when it is just the two of you and you should be very content and happy with each other before bringing someone else into the world with you. Marriage and kids are great just be sure you have time with each other first.
2006-09-19 11:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Most couples need time to get to know one another as a married couple before the ringer of a baby is thrown into the works. It can only make the relationship stronger.
2006-09-19 11:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by world traveler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should wait. Too many marriages today end in divorce. Better to make sure that this one will last before bringing children in the picture, because children change everything. Less time together, sleepless nights, more income needed and it's a 24/7 job. You have to be there for your children first. Some husbands don't adapt to this too easy. But it's your job as a parent to give them all the love and attentions they need and deserve.
2006-09-19 13:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the couple. We wanted to be living on our own for at least 2 years, and we wanted to have at least 3 vacations on our own. We did all that. We wanted to make sure we could enjoy ourselves before giving all to our baby. Now all our attention is on our child, but we always do things as a family. We know that one day when he is older, we will start going on dates just to get some alone time. I think that the couple should at least know each other's wants and beliefs and agree with the parenting styles. A child shouldn't be brought into a fighting family. Solve your problems first. Other than that, any time is fine.
2006-09-19 11:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait, give yourselves enough time to be married and enjoy each other. I would say about 2-3 years to wait to have children. I got married with a 2 year old, this kept us from doing a lot of newlywed things.
2006-09-19 11:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely wait at least a couple of years. Get to know one another first. Become good friends. Find things that you both enjoy doing together before you have children.
2006-09-19 11:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by john 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, you should wait for couple of years. Enjoy the first few years of marriage lifestyle. Build up your marriage relationship and do some family planning ahead will help to ease off your stress when baby arrives :)
2006-09-19 11:08:44 · answer #11 · answered by Lobang 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋