Hi all my girlfriend has just got a new job with more money which is great. We have been together only 2 months & now she is saying that we can start looking for a house together, I do love her but I think it's too early too start thinking about moving in together. Do you think I am right? Also how can I tell her I am not ready yet? Many thanks.
2006-09-19 03:57:24 · 20 answers · asked by richardwales79 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have known each other for months & yeah I am in love with her, I know that.
2006-09-19 04:06:22 · update #1
Way too early, just enjoy your relationship first and get to know each other before making a big commitment like that. There's plenty of time. Good luck mate
2006-09-19 03:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by bagmouss 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Way to early!! Buying a house a huge, huge commitment!! Just be honest with her. Tell you love her but moving in together is a big step. You want to make sure this relationship is going in the right direction and you would hate for it to fall apart because things were rushed. I would think she would understand! You two are in the beginning steps of a relationship take it slow and enjoy the dates!!
2006-09-19 11:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is way too early. Just tell her straight up. I do really love you, but we're not ready to live together. You don't want to rush into things and ruin a good thing.
2006-09-19 11:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until marriage for this ..you are right.
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2006-09-19 11:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel 'ready' then dont do it
forget the advise about x number of months is ok
its upto you how much time you take till you feel ready
talk to her and tell her that you love her and all that but you dont feel that moving in is a good idea yet. you dont want to rush and you want to do things at a slower pace. if you use the right tact and communicate well, she will understand...
good luck :)
2006-09-19 11:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you care about her but don't want to rush into anything and would rather wait until you are both emotionally and financially ready (ie.. so you don't have to rely too heavily on her paycheck). Believe me, tying yourself to someone financially is NOT easy or cheap to get out of. If she is a keeper, she should respect your feelings and your boundaries.
2006-09-19 11:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by mizzofficer2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I suggest that you rent some where first and see how living together goes. Otherwise you could feel very trapped.
My sister and her b/f have been together for 4 years and they still havnt bought anywhere yet.
2006-09-19 11:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her and its only been two months? how does that happen, you guys barely know each other. a house is a big step for two "strangers" to jump in to. if i were you i wouldnt do it. if u guys break up then that leaves the house. usually people dont do that kinda thing until they're married. think about what your doing.
2006-09-19 11:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by chinkee104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice to find a guy who is honest, so dont change tell her how you feel, just reassure her that you do love her and you want it to be right when you eventually move in together.
2006-09-19 11:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by jean m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready, tell her exactly that ... If you're still together in another 6 months then consider moving in, but if you're still not ready take your time
2006-09-19 11:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋