Then i ask him do you trust me he said i don't now. So why is my husband telling me this i have never cheated on him and don't plan to i love him very very much. He told me that if he ever catches me he will hurt me so much so my question is why is he asking this? I don't understand yestarday i ask him and he didin't respond anithing i need advice what should i do. Thanks everybody for your help.
2006-09-19 03:19:46 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to have a heart to heart with him. He is feeling insecure for some reason. Just talk to your husband and tell him you two need to talk about these feelings he is having. Good luck.
2006-09-19 03:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is seriously disturbed. It is ok to ask "would you ever cheat on me" in the begining of a relationship, but into your marriage without anything major happening? In my opinion if a guy all the sudden asks you that out of the blue-he may be projecting something he has done or thought about onto you. My sister just got a divorce for that exact reason. Her husband started accusing her of having an affair. She was home all day long with their two children until he got home for work. She was never alone-it was impossible for her to do anything and he knew it. He ended up being abusive towards her. In the end they got divorced and we found out that he was the one who was having the affair. I am not saying that is the case-IF ANY THING AT ALL consider how he told you he would hurt you very bad if it should ever happen. That is a huge red flag and you need to think about that.
2006-09-19 10:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by lady K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe one of his friends has been talking about you too much...this happens all the time...some guy gets smitten and starts blabbing to your husband...and even if you did nothing wrong the jealousy bug has been planted___have you noticed any signs that your guy might be cheating? Sometimes men justify their actions by accusing us. At any rate, tell him he's special and you love him and not to be insecure because trust is an important issue in your relationship.
2006-09-19 10:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by zlata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like what goes on with somebody whose really insecure, and I'll bet suspicion applies to more than your fidelity. It's a tough condition to beat. My brother's that way, has been all his life, and finally wound up in therapy for anxiety attacks. You might try encouraging and reassuring him almost constantly, but even that won't have an immediate effect. Good luck.
2006-09-19 10:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is acting this way (protective & obsessive) towards you because he is insecure.
He obviously thinks you are too good for him and with that in hand, that you'll go off and cheat.
You need to tell him that jealousy is a turn off and that if he persists with acting so suspicious, when you're not a cheater, that it will begin putting a strain on your marriage.
2006-09-19 10:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he is both mental and probably entertaining the idea of an affair himself. People don't question other people they are in love with unless you did cheat (which isn't the case) or they want to. Either way, I'd dump his *** and tell him to get a life.
2006-09-19 10:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he loves u very much n when u love some one in mad way u get that feeling plus i don know about u 2 but i have a feeling like ur that kind of lovely person which anyone knows u will likes u n maybe thats makin him jealous or something don worry he will get over it show him more love n let him b sure that he is the only one who u love
2006-09-19 10:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably asked for any of the following reasons:
suspicion based on waning trust;
realising the possibility of it from what he saw in others;
feeling threatened by wife's new status or beauty;
developing an inferiority complex;
getting possessive;
he himself guilty of it;
2006-09-19 10:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by peaceman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's the one having the affair sounds guilty to me the subconcious is an amazing part of the brain.
2006-09-19 10:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by MOVING 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling one of his buddies has recently been cheated on or he watched a silly talk show where this was the topic. You stated your truth. If he cannot accept it than he is a silly man. He'll just have to deal with his own insecurities.
2006-09-19 10:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋