A good friend of mine is having a very difficult time recovering from his divorce. His ex-wife initiated the divorce and their children live with her (he shares custody, but they live with their mother). He is depressed and angry. Due to his occupation, he cannot undergo therapy and cannot take medication. He just seems stuck in a cycle of depression, anger. It's been 2 years and he seems only marginally better.
2006-09-19 03:15:09 · 15 answers · asked by Marcjc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One must take account the valley's he has walked through to get where he is today. He must face up to his responsibility and move forward instead of grinding gears in second.
2006-09-19 03:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To add my 2 cents divorce is never easy. I am sorry for your friend that he has to suffer so much. But he must understand that through all this suffering his spirit is getting stronger, and as much as life sucks sometimes it does get better. but please keep in mind life will not get better by itself, you have to take the initiative. I have been there and done that and for me the best way to get rid of the depression was to do things I have always wanted to do. Like a hobby or trip I wanted to take up but wasnt able to. Or maybe enroll in classes or maybe try to volunteer to help the poor. Trust me once you see how many people have so little you really appreciate what little you do have. Above all else since he is sharing custody of his kids he has to keep in mind that his kids are like sponges and they see how hard the divorce is hitting him. If he can somehow find something to help him cope his attitude will change and his kids will see him a little happier which in turn will make them happier. The worse thing you can do is to tranfer all the anxiety and resentment and anger of the divorce to your kids.
Good luck
2006-09-19 04:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by brazilman37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should make the effort to get into therapy - two years is a long time to carry around that anger, he really needs professional help & most likely medication. Maybe you and other friends could check into it for him (church or community counseling center) & do an intervention?
Doing things to help make him get his mind off it is a good idea, but you can't be around to entertain him 24/7.
2006-09-19 03:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm in the middle of one and everyone tells me two years is the majic number after that everything seems to fall into place and get better...sorry for your friend maybe he needs counseling or a girlfriend to help him out of his slump.
2006-09-19 03:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by sasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may go better taking on a hobby of some sort. It will not only fill a bit of his free time, it could also take his mind away from the present situation.
2006-09-19 03:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to seek professional therapy whether his occupation allows it or not.
Depression is serious and he needs help for himself and to be a great father to his children.
Good luck.
2006-09-19 04:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of job is that? It sounds like he may need more help than you can give him as much as you may care about him. I went through a divorce and it was tough. Sounds heartless but if your spouse dies people are more sympathetic but divorce is like a death as well.
2006-09-19 03:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let time heal the wound.. Utimately it still depenable on how he actually think and how much he want to stand on his feets again.
Friend at this point of time are very crucial and positive friend will slowly influence his thinking..
2006-09-19 03:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Viceroy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce is a tough thing to get over, esp if one spouse doesnt or didnt want it, and then to see her with someone else is hard, plus that new person is with your kids,,
all you can do is take it one day at a time,, be a friend,,
2006-09-19 03:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try telling him about God. That will give him peace. Also try to help him get back out in the dating world. Maybe set up a date for him.
2006-09-19 03:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by leahb1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋