2006-09-19 03:07:43 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he said it would be just sex.we would still be married to each other and love each other.I cannot do it.he's been bringing it up for about a year or more.I thought he wasn't really serious but I think he might be.I don't know what to do.I will loose everything if I divorce him plus I'm really scared of some things he has said.I have 3 kids,the baby is his and my other 2 is from a previous marriage.I haven't worked since I had my baby and everything is in his name now.I won't be able to support all of us and family is not reliable.
2006-09-19 03:41:21 · update #1
he says it woul be just sex and would always come home to me.....like I'm supposed to feel better about that.I told him I would probably fall in love with someone who wanted just me but it didn't phase him.I'm really hating sex now.I need to feel secure ,I don't at all.My self esteem and self respect is leaving me.Am I able to leave my home? I've worked so hard for it.Can I support my kids?he has told me many times that I will not leave him.
2006-09-23 16:32:40 · update #2
"No." Not only "No", but "Hell no."
And if he pressured me about it, it would indicate to me just how much he didn't respect my boundaries, and I'd re-visit whether or not the relationship was healthy.
2006-09-19 03:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you really need to get out of your marriage he does`nt respect and
love or even care about you.nothing but problems will come from
this.he will say mean things,make like its your fault.but i`m here to
tell ya its not. disregard my answer from your other Q.now that
i have read more about the problem.he already has someone in
mind.if does it he will be OK with it.but if you do it,he will more than
likely beat you,and call you dirty. get out you don`t need what
about to come your way.what i`m saying is most people cannot
deal with it,sure they talk a good game,but in the end you will be
blamed,wrong for doing it.don`t stay together because of the kid or kids. GET OUT! you will thank yourself later. it will be hard
but its whats best. I see alot of hurt coming your way...
2006-09-19 05:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by bob p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.
1 thes 4: 3-8
2006-09-19 03:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the marriage is over. If he wants to have sex with someone else, then he doesn't love you anymore. Sex is something that is very special between a husband and a wife. Once you venture outside of that, then you are in trouble. Good luck.
2006-09-19 03:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say "NO". ( And mean it ) He's been reading too many porno books or watching those sexy movies. Only 16% of people like 3somes and if you don't want to do it tell him you're the 84% of the people who are not interested in 3somes or foursomes. No one should force, beg, plead, cry....or whatever to get someone to do something against their wishes. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-24 18:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is over, the percent of people that actually can live happily ever after in that kind of life style is slim to none, someone bigger, sexier, more caring always comes along and someone always gets the short end of the stick
2006-09-19 03:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well i have been telling my husband no he wants the same thing but my answer it will be no always. Just by a stupid mistake i am not going to loose my marriage so i don't now if you want to do it go for it but if you are not sure don't it will ruined you.
2006-09-19 03:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say lets join a group and find a couple that we both can enjoy. Add a bit of spice to the relationship.
2006-09-19 03:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him why he wanted a divorce. Because thats eventually whats going to happen. You can't have a successful marriage if your both having sex with other people.
2006-09-19 03:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by flutterby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like not only a good way to get std but also a good way to loose your partner. You should ask if he has a woman in mind already and then I would would ask myself if he is already sleeping with her
2006-09-19 03:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell Him I was leaving, cause when we got together , it was just suppose to be US. An then i would pack my stuff an leave file Divorce .. whatever was needed. Cause He's already Cheating..
2006-09-19 03:11:27 · answer #11 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋