I love talking "dirty" and I love to hear it. Is there anything I can do to make my husband feel more comfortable talking? He feels "cheesy" and I think it messes him up ..
2006-09-19 03:04:16 · 35 answers · asked by libidinous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk dirty..find someone else for dat
2006-09-19 03:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I got a suggestion. When you talk dirty to him, ask him questions. Like how does that feel baby? If he doesn't answer change the question for the same basic answer. Um Like, Feel good huh? Or tell him what you want him to do..... get him talking by talking to him, questions stuff like that. I am still in the process of using that on my other half..... so far so good. You have to be persistent. Don't give up, cuz he will too. He don't feel comfortable right now but after he gets comfortable you won't be able to stop him. I have been doing this for a little bit now and I wanted the same thing.... He talks a little bit but he is getting better. Sometimes he starts which is great... good luck hun I hope it works for you... it is for me.
2006-09-19 03:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him 'dirty' questions during love making and then don't do the things he likes until he answers your dirty questions with dirty answers. In other words withhold the charms longer than he would like...
Also, during non love making times try to use a lot of sexual innuendo. Over time he should start reciprocating the innuendo which I think leads to being more comfortable talking dirty in the sack...
2006-09-19 03:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are various 'triggers' that stimulate sexual fantasy and imagination, and 'talking dirty' is one of them. Not all people are comfortable with it. It could be considered a fetish.
Try explaining your feelings to your husband, and if he's in tune with you, he'll understand it and perhaps adapt. Ask him what turns HIM on, ask him to be completely honest, and you both might be very surprised.
The other interesting thing is that you might try reverse memory, things in the past that have happened, -- try and figure out why you like it so much, it might even help you a bit. Knowing your own mind is fascinating,being able to share it honestly with your spouse is the ultimate relationship.
2006-09-19 03:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to concentrate and realize that roleplaying may seem cheesy but actually makes sex a lot more interesting and fun.
You'll need to help him relax and get into it. Besides, it's just the two of you, so it's not like his guy friends can laugh at him about talking dirty.
2006-09-19 03:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you two are, or how long you've been having sex, but if everything is fairly new, he may just need a little time to get "comfortable." I'd suggest some porn to demonstrate the idea, but any more the guys barely breath hard and the girls all have the same unimaginative dialog coach. Keep coaxing, he'll get the hang of it sooner or later and be telling you how he like for you to suck his &@&k, wants to set you &***y ib fire, and loves *** all over your t+ts.
2006-09-19 03:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well coming from the side of the person who is like your hubby, it takes time. I am the same way. Love to hear dirty talk but feel funny doing it. My hubby has helped me by often asking questions in the moment ....for example you like that don't you? Tell me what you like, basically repeating what he has just said to me. As this occurred more I had a wider range of things I felt comfortable saying and eventaully started to ad lib my self. It's takes times but it was great fun. I took it as a learning experience....luckily my hubby was a good teacher... hope it helps.....Luv....T's Little Slut.....hehehehe
2006-09-19 03:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but alot of people feel very uncomfortable doing the Dirty talk. There isn't anything you can do that will change this. Just accept it and find something else that really turns you on and see if he likes that.
2006-09-19 03:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and add a little each time.It takes time to feel comfortable talking dirty,when your not use to it.I used to not like it and felt weird saying things.As time went on,now I like it alot.But there are some times that I want to have fun without talking dirty and others when I want to.Just take your time doing it and I am sure when he feels more comfortable,he will.But don't think that because he isnt comfortable,it reflects on how comfortable he is with you,because thats NOT true.It's just how he feels saying stuff and is NO reflection on your relationship.Good luck!!
2006-09-19 03:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing your husband is just the opposite of you. Let him be him and let you be you. Opposites really do attract because they keep each other in balance spiritually. You will never see a 'pimp' marry his 'who' because they're both low life's. Which is basically what you do when you talk "dirty". Don't get me wrong I agree with you a little dirty talk is what brings the spice of life into a relationship. BUTT two partners talking dirty will only make strife in a relationship...take it from my experience.
2006-09-19 03:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If hubby is embarassed work him in slowly. Ask him to describe what he is feeling while you play with him. You can also be very vocal as in tell him what you want. Sooner or later he will get the picture and begin talking dirty .
2006-09-19 03:09:15 · answer #11 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋