We have an 8 year old son, and our neighbors are rude. Their 5 kids, the youngest being in middle school, are constantly swearing, name calling and even give us the finger! I don't want a bad example for our son. Is there any way to solve this short of attempting to talk to them? Their parents are even worse to deal with. It is so stressful! Please help!
2006-09-19 02:56:23 · 12 answers · asked by rellimztik_arual 3 in Home & Garden ➔ Other - Home & Garden
I have aqlso tried writing a letter to the editor on this, but the editor will not publish my letter, because he is friends with them! Everyone else on our block gets along with us fine. We even called the police on them once because we started getting round chips in our windshields. The police won't do anything about it, even though they have had previous reports about BB damage from these people.
2006-09-19 03:13:52 · update #1
I am afraid that if the parents are worse to deal with then the only thing that you can do is call dcf . Because the parents are not willing to take the responsibilty of raising these kids right,they need counseling . I cannot imagine ppl letting their kids act this way. For god's sake keep those kids away from your kid because he might start acting like them . Yes I would definately say that your only option is to call DCF and get them involved . This family definately needs counceling. good luck i hope all works out for you.
2006-09-19 03:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not confront these people - do not approach.
You are right to be concerned but you have to live next to these people. I have always been honest with my kids that it is okay to not like some people, kids specifically. I don't believe in the "like everybody" philsophy because I think kids end up getting hurt if they can't choose their friends carefully.
Simply avoid them. If their kids are out playing and your son also wants to play outside, go to the park, play in the backyard, go down several houses away to a friends house. Do not interact at all. All you really have to do is be more mindful of their presence and adjust your actions slightly. Don't cower in your house, afraid of the neighborhood bully.
If any of their kids threaten or physically approach your child, call the police immediately. It's your job to protect your child, not teach the rest of the world how to behave. If their parents get upset, remind them of your job as the parent and the adult in the equation. Social Services takes a dim view of parents who can't control their abusive children.
When my kids observe other kids like you describe, I simply remind them that those kids won't be their competition for college or a good job. All my kids know how to avoid negative personalities and friends that will use them.
Empower your son to make good choices.
2006-09-19 10:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*lol* kja63's answer is great. Do use them as examples. Every time they do something like that when you're outside with your child, point at them and make sure they hear you telling your child about why you shouldn't do what it is they're doing and why it's rude. Turn them into an exhibit of bad behavior. If that doesn't work, begin videotaping every instance and then go over there and tell them that if it doesn't stop, you're going to have to call the police and present all this video evidence of them harassing you. You shouldn't have to put up with harassment like that. They'll run away if you bring a camera out.
2006-09-19 10:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote with calling the Child Protective Services in your area. Sounds like extreme child neglect on the parent's part. I think taking videos of the "acts" is also a good Idea. But I wouldn't approach these people. Simply take your evidence to the authorities.
2006-09-19 18:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a lot you can do other than stay away from them - if it's that bad just move out. No point in putting up with it for 20 years.
If you can't even face talking with them, there's not a lot you can do. Maybe videotape them and report them to the authorities?
2006-09-19 10:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by funnygeezeruk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, yo gotta do ya thang.
Say this to their parents and the middle kid.
"Yo fo' shizzle, you ain't flashing that finger, coz it's not as shiny as my bling-bling, no Kiddo, you really do need some attention, coz you're just like a piggy that does not celebrate its Fathers Day. You call mah kids Shorty, you ain't as tall as me yet, punk, im giving you that wedgie in front of ur GIRL, coz I know you wear Barbie Doll knickers even though you're a boy"
Now it really does work. I've tried it.
2006-09-19 10:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the rest of the neighborhood feel the same? Perhaps each of them having a talking turn as well, until the situation brightens might help
2006-09-19 10:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dick V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I find a well placed IED usually takes care of the situation.
No, really, just move.
What else are you going to do?
If you can't talk to the parents and they are not interested in controlling their children, get the hell out.
I personally would find a kid or a couple of kids a little older and bigger than theirs and pay him/them to beat the crap out of their kids and to keep doing it until they get the message.
2006-09-19 10:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use their behavior as "teachable moments" for your son. Every time the neighbors (adults and kids) do something rude or inappropriate, reinforce to your son how wrong this type of behavior is and why.
2006-09-19 09:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If thier social behavior is so bad that it may involve the law or county child protection agency, then make it happen. If they are renters, complain to the landlord.
2006-09-19 10:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋