we have ben frinds for 15yrs after a yr we met i told her i was n lv with her&she did',t want to here it said that we can only be just frinds so i respected that&we remained frinds even thou it was hard for me at times i can't control my heart it was by chance that i started feeling this way well we hv ben n&out of relatships since but the last yr we got real close again like it was meant to be we can only count on ea other here n this town we are happy together talk daily go places&even talked about getting a business started &buy a house she has ben giving me signs&gesters that she feels the same we stair n ea others eyes&the world stops its magical i think shes in deneil about her feelings for me i will be moving next month my mother is 66&rebuilding her home downsouth she only has 2 kids i don't want to leave my bf&she wants me to stay here she refueses to go with me she use to tell me i luv ya or i mis ya just after being away one day shes been avoiding me&i never left yet
2006-09-19 02:55:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this really hurts me i needed to talk to her 2 of the nights this pass week cos i've ben having problems&shes ben by another girlfriends house we have talked about spending what time i have left here together before i do leave we went out the other night then we came here to my place and drank some more wine& she wanted me to dance she wanted to boot up&palyfight&would pull the wine bottle from me when i grab it playing she made the remark that she needs to be kissed by someone well when she was messing with me with bottle&booting up i wanted to grab her&kiss her then but i did'nt she has been giving me mix signals to leave me woundering we have never kissed or made lv yet i know she has problems too but we all do thats what frinds are for please help me figure this out i know this was a lot to read thanks
2006-09-19 03:06:00 · update #1
damm this is a hard choice for you to make, but i would ga with the saying that blood is thicker than water...you cannot leave your mum in the hour of her need....stand by your mum...about your friend, your friendship has survived for 15years, so you have something special and i am sure it will survive this aswell....but you need to calmly talk to your friend about this problem that you face...coz that is what best friends are there for...tell her how you feel, just do it in a calm and gentle way...but you have to do this face 2 face a.s.a.p.....
2006-09-19 03:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by ET 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may be avoiding you because there are some new issues she has to face.
Being lovers after being friends for 15 years is a major step. Also you are moving away, so that is a major issue and she is probably having a lot of problems dealing with that. She probably is getting mixed signals. You claim you love her but you have to move away from her.
That would confuse me too.
Imagine if you two become lovers, and something bad happens. Will you be able to be just friends again... or will you throw away 15 years of friendship.
I would just confront your friend and ask her why she is avoiding you.
Its understandable that she doesnt want to leave her home, and that you don't want to leave her.
Try to find a suitable compromise in this mess.
2006-09-19 10:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Elkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes you, but that your feelings are much stronger than hers. It also sounds like you're getting a good opportunity to move away with your Mom and start fresh. There's not much you can do when someone doesn't give back to you the love you feel for them. It happens to ALL of us, believe me. Your best bet is to move away, make new friends, and just think of her as a good memory. In time, you'll hurt less and start to be more happy. Just give yourself a chance.
2006-09-19 10:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are moving she is trying to unattatch herself from you to lessen the hurt when you leave her. She is avoiding you because she is not very happy about the fact you are leaving her.
You might have to accept the way she feels and let her be. Remind her that you'll still scared, your sorry she is upset about the situation and that when and if she decides she is more than welcome to come to stay with you and that despite the move the friendship will never end.
2006-09-19 10:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the avoidance is her way of dealing with the upcoming separation and she is simply attempting to put your relationship as friends back into perception. As her friend it would seem that the two of you could communicate better about this issue. Ask her outright as you really have nothing to lose.
2006-09-19 10:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man u've got a real messed up life
get a life and another girl
2006-09-19 09:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She selfish. Just leave her.
2006-09-19 10:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesn't like you or it is difficult for her that you are moving. just find a right moment and ask her that.
2006-09-19 10:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he doesn't love yuo anymore! Or you have something unpleasant for him. And maybe.... because you did something that your boyfriend doesn't want yuo to do.
2006-09-19 09:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by mr. gray 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't like you because you can't use proper sentence structure.
2006-09-19 09:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋