Getting a devorce and my husband and his girlfriend are stalking me, making false reports to dhs, calling my boss trying to get me fired. I feel it is time to repay the favor and start causing them some hell since they seem to enjoy doing it to others. My husband owns a body shop and his girlfriend works in a nursing home. I was thinking of turning him in to the epa or something like that how ever I just don't really know what to tell them. If you have any suggestions on anything to repay these 2 I'd like to hear it
2006-09-19 02:51:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just get a restraining order and move on with your life and show them that they can't succeed in their attempts to bring you down. Show them that you are better then that and don't care about their childish antics because that will be the best revenge. There is a line between standing up for yourself and sinking to their level and I think that you should be the better person in this situation and just move on.
Good luck:)
2006-09-19 02:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sink to their level! My ex husband did these same types of things while we were going through our divorce, and for many, many years after. I dealt with the false reports to DHS, and finally got so sick of it I told the DHS worker that I knew where the calls were coming from, they had done their investigations, and if they continued to harrass me, knowing their was no neglect or abuse in the home, I would file charges against them. This put a stop to that problem. As far as the employment situation, my ex also called my work to harass me. I had problems with my employer UNTIL I sat down and spoke with my boss about the problem. He in fact was very helpful, and when the ex called again (good-ol caller ID) my boss took the call and informed him that the business would prosecute if he called again! You need to keep track of all dates and times that he or his girlfriend contacts you and notes of what went on. This information will be your back up to file a PPO against him and his girlfriend. (personal protection order) If you have filed for divorce, inform your attorney of the situation also. I do not know if you are in a no-fault divorce state or not, but if you are not, you can use him having a girlfriend while you are still legally married in your favor. This is adultry because the two of you are still legally married. I say set a good example for your kids and be the better person. Sorry to hear you have to deal with this, and glad to say I don't have to anymore. Good Luck too you!
2006-09-19 03:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned they turned you in to DHS so I assume you have children? I would not play any games with them due to children being involved. If this guy is the father of your children you both must find a way to get along for the sake of the children. So if you get dirty with your husband, you are keeping things stirred up and lowering yourself to his level. I would hire an attorney and ask him to help you to stop your husband and his girlfriend from doing all these ugly things. Remind your husband, in writing, that the children did not ask to be brought into this world and deserve better from their parents. Divorce is hell enough on children and all the dirty fights and game playing just compounds this hellish time for them. Good luck.
2006-09-19 03:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Revenge is never a good thing. Get a restraining order and/or have him arrested. If you get revenge you will be just like him. Childish and Immature. By the way, if he already has a new girlfriend, what does he want with you. He should move on. If you want to talk more. Contact me.
2006-09-19 02:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all, don't do anything that will make you look bad. You don't want to stoop to your ex's level. You can however, record him when he calls, take pictures when you see him following you, and file a harrassment complaint. Keep the police on his tail and let him see what it feels like to be followed.
2006-09-19 02:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are caught up in a life of great chaos, trouble and meanness. If you play back with the kind of mean treatment you have been receiving, your life will never change, you'll just end up in more similar situations. Walk away.
2006-09-19 02:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by uncle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes around, comes around. If you want to lower yourself to their level, have at. Just don't be surprised when it comes back and bites you in the butt.
My recommendation would be to call the cops and a lawyer and document what's going on, but then I'm not a big one on revenge.
2006-09-19 02:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and a restraining order. File a lawsuit against them.
2006-09-19 02:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a RO against them. They both deserve each other, they have the same childish mentality.
2006-09-19 03:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are beyond that. Don't lower yourself to their level of low life individuals. What goes around comes around. It appears that those two deserve eachother. Their day will come.
2006-09-19 02:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋