my wife volunteers at the old age home near our house... i think she bathes old men or something stupid like that.
if she wants to bathe someone, why doesnt she just stay at home and do it for me?
im sure this will satisfy her "washing" fetish, and i wont have to give her permission to leave the house all the time.
2006-09-19 02:34:13 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with NB. We MUST be friends.
2006-09-19 16:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dialup, Avatar, Jones! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope that you aren't seriously asking this question. What your wife is doing is admirable. Someone has to take care of our elderly, and I am pretty sure that it isn't just the "old men", as you put it, that she is washing. What your wife is doing is preventing the elderly from getting bed sores, dying alone and feeling alone in their last stages of life. If anything, you should feel proud that she is that kind of person. I doubt that she has a "washing fetish", because if she did, it certainly wouldn't be geriatric patients that she was taking care of. You don't give your wife permission to do anything. Marriage is not a CAN I PLEASE???? situation. It is equal and fair, and if it isn't that anymore for her, I hope she leaves your *** exactly where you are right now...home and whining like a little baby. Have a great day!!!
2006-09-19 02:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG your a control freak! She needs permission to leave the house all the time?? WOW you need some therapy or something!
As for you thoughts of her having a washing fetish I honestly dont know what to make of that! Maybe she is just a caring person who enjoys her job helping the aged people who at times do need help with bathing - I doubt she does it for sexual gratification she probably doesnt even think about it that way!
Get some help!
2006-09-19 02:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me, this woman sounds like a saint stuck in hell. I can't think of a single woman who would have a fetish with washing old men. And if she volunteers there it's because she wants to help them. How would you feel if you were in a home and nobody washed you. She has a big enough heart to help these people when it's obviously causing stress at home. You should respect her for being such a good person and take a few tips. If she has to ask your permission to go volunteer at an elderly home, then it sounds to me like you abuse her in some way.
2006-09-19 03:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not looking at it as a fetish. I am sure your wife does more than"bathe old men". Its really inconsiderate on your part to knock something your wife has an interest in. It isn't like she is going out to the bar and spending your retirement fund gambling. She is helping others by providing her time and care. You should feel proud of her for doing things so selflessly. And by the way, "give her permission to leave", you have got to be kidding right?
2006-09-19 02:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by lady K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bathing old men? Washing fetish? Give her permission to leave the house? You two have issues!
2006-09-19 02:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to do the same thing and there is nothing wrong with that,My husden didn't care for it ether but i was making money.Maybe she just needs something to to with her life then just setting home 24/7.If you wont her to bathe you why don't you ask you never know she may do it,you may like it?There is nothing wrong with what she is doing when we all get old we will all get to a point were someone may have to bathe us so you should stat now.Have fun with your wife maybe she needs that too.
2006-09-19 02:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bridget D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is doing a tremendous service and you should be proud of her! Hooray for her! Come on drop your selfish attitude and see her for what she is. After all I don't think you are half as bad as you pretend to be, she married you, so she must have seen some good in you. You mentioned too about giving her permission to leave the house, is she under 16? Marry me..... I'd change your attitude in a minute.
2006-09-19 02:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by ann m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen - trying to keep your wife isolated and "to yourself" is showing that you have a real control problem. What is wrong with her volunteering? Maybe she needs to felt needed and wants to help these people. Maybe she needs to help people for her self esteem. It sounds like you are very controlling and to say that you need to give her permission to leave the house is absurd.
Get over yourself and get some self esteem so that you don't feel you need to ruin this poor woman's life by controlling her to such a degree. Any man who told me I needed his permission to leave the house has something else coming to him - like my foot up his ****.
Give her some space and freedom and find out why you have this problem of control.
2006-09-19 02:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by thisisuandme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, she's definitely going to get a kick from washing some wizened 90 year old's bits ... maybe what they have is still bigger than yours. Your brain has obviously shrunk - what;s with the "give her permission" bulls**t?
I'm sure you will find that she does something much more rewarding than just rub soap into old men's groins ... why don't you ask her?
2006-09-19 02:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! She is doing this because she wants to help out and whatever she is doing is helping these older people. I'm sure if she wanted to bathe you and it was a sexual thing she wouldnt be doing it at an old people's home.
2006-09-19 02:39:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋