Can you or to people recover from abuses?

Question

i PUSHED MY GIRLFRIEND two TIMES IN FIVE YRS, IAM SEEKING HELP WITH A CONSOLER. FOR 6 MONTHS IS THEIR HOPE. E-MAIL ME AT KBJSNOOPYU@AOL

SHE HAS A PEACE ORDER FOR 5 MORE MONTHS, AND SAID SHE WONTS TO MOVE ON WITH HERE LIFE

Answer 1

Violence is usually the first sign that there are issues for you to deal with NOW. Your question is very fragmented. Either you are on drugs, very young, poorly educated or highly emotional. Please don't take this as a judgment call on you. In any case counseling will be of great value for you. Keep in mind that all of us go thru difficult times in adjusting to the demands of life. You are no different and should not feel especially guilty about this. But you should welcome counseling with an open mind to help you find your better self...don't look at counseling as a judgment call or as a condemnation of you, look at it as an opportunity to grow spiritually.

Answer 2

If your getting help that's great. You also have to think about what is causing you to do this. Is it alcohol or is it inner-demons?? She should go with you to counseling. That way she can get some idea on how to help you with this process. She will also need counseling to heal from this. It's hard for a women to heal even from pushing. We know pushing can lead to more. Women will become afraid and that isn't good for a marriage. If you two want to work this out and the good out ways the bad then work at it. It takes more than a couple of sessions to really change and most important you are really going to have to want to change for you not her. When you do it for other people the change won't last. You are either going to have to be committed to counseling or let her go. I know it's hard to let someone go when the heart doesn't want to.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I'm very happy to hear your going to counseling. It works if you keep an opened mind,listen and be honest,share all;l your feelings and actions. Since it was a push in five years and didn't lead to more your chances to recover is very good but don't stop the counseling until you and your counselor feel it's time. I've been to counseling and I highly recommend it but for different reasons than you are going for. If your girlfriend isn't going with you yet she should at least meet with you and your counselor a few times so she can see and hear how it works and share your feelings to.I wish you the best!!!

Answer 4

I think that you are moving in the right direction. You admit that you have a problem and that is the first step. Most people deny that there is even a problem. Plus you are seeing a counselor, that is good. You need to keep seeing one and work on your anger issues. There might be something in your past that you need to work through. All of that can be worked out in therapy. Changing is up to you and what you are willing to do to make sure this doesn't keep happening!!

Answer 5

I myself have a anger problem. You have to know it is not your girlfriend it is you. You need to not just get rid of the domance over your girlfriend but know it is a anger problem that most likely got passed down from your grandparents to your parents to you. Brake the cycle now before you have children so they don't have to go through this too. You need Jesus because without him you can't change yourself. You can only hid your problem and it will come back later.

Answer 6

Anger can be a big issue in some relationships, and sometimes VERBAL abuse is worse than PHYSICALL abuse...... You shouldnt at all put you hands on a woman, but I have heard of alot worse than pushing someone.... but pushing can lead to hitting, smacking, punching, shooting, and even killing...... Listen if you need help, or advice.... email me [e-mail]

Answer 7

keep your faith. congratulations you have recognised there is a problemandit takes a big man to admit that. be proud of yourself and i'll keep my fingers crossed your counselling goes well