He left and was so cruel.He still has some of his things here.He has moved to the flat below so I can`t even go out incase I meet him,I have no friends here and he has lots.I can not face him at the moment to give the clothes back.Why has he left them..It would be so easy to curl up and die.I have no one.I still llove him and know I will beg for him back if I see him
2006-09-19 02:16:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Aside from the fact that suicide is one of the most unforgivable sins, life doesn't end when you lost your love. Your freedom is a beginning for you to prove and get yourself back on track. You can still do so much in your life and you can find that guy who'd make you as happy again. You still have your family and a lot of friends (whom you may not appreciate as much given your full attention to your ex) who cares so much about you more than you can ever imagine. You can lean on them at these hard times. Remember that TIME heals all wounds.
You can start your life by throwing and/or hiding anything that will just remind you of him. Then get a hobby (make a scrapbook, volunteer for a social activity) or anything that will keep you occupied than sour grape on your failed relationship. Go to a gym, get a make over, try to improve yourself more (pursue masterals if you've finished college, take a culinary course/baking, etc).. in a way, you're helping yourself unconsciously move on and people will realize you're stronger and more productive and independent without him. And in this way, you'll even find someone A LOT better.
Please do the right thing.
2006-09-19 02:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah, Im sure that you were happy before you met your ex, so dont go on living like he's the only person who can make you happy, you have friends, if not around you on the internet, you have family who loves you, no matter what there will always be someone there for you who loves you. Obviously your ex isnt worth your breathe, so just put everything to do with him aside, go out, have a good time, meet some new people.
When I thought I couldnt go on any longer, I took up a college course on child care and I met a whole load of new friends who shared my interests, and I am still friends with them now.
I may be young but I still have experience.
2006-09-19 09:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is NOT an option!!! There is no MAN (or woman) on the face of this earth worth your life! Please, please, call a suicide hotline!
I know it hurts - (I've loved the same man since I was 11 years old and I'm almost 50 now) - he's been married twice to other women and got my little sister pregnant!
Don't beg him either. Put his things in a bag or a box and give them to mutual friend to give to him.
The feelings for him will eventually dim, and you can find someone who will love you. Bars really arent' an option, but there has got to be a singles group or even a church group to help get you on your feet.
Please let me know that you're doing okay.
2006-09-19 09:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by imnotlisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is already aware, you will beg for him back. Guys like that know exactly how to play when in need of booty call. Sad but true...However, knowledge is power, and how you intend to use it will either make you stronger, or weaker. No one is worth losing your life over...! Re-think your attitude, with self-confidence, and self-control. Dust him off like a bad habit, take a shower, wear your best outfits, everyday...with the doo, make-up etc...and go out! Shopping is a great start for future great looks, a new coffee shop to meet great friends which you are capable of stirring interesting conversation, and have wonderful humour that shows a remarkable smile, which is always welcome anywhere. You will do it, because you know you can, and you have what it takes to move on! People enjoy those with positive attitudes, and that is your open door to wonderful opportunities for friendships which is unlimited, so why go into his form of trying to control you...turn it around and say, oh well, he snoozed so he loosed...his loss! Once you've done pampering yourself with all that goodness you know you possess, and you see yourself looking great in front of that mirror all done up...smile....say...Woo-hoo! I'm free, and single and gonna mingle! Your shoes are made for walking...now you go girl...walk that confidence out into the world where new friends await your wonderful personality! Best to you! Here's me...cheering you on! :-)
2006-09-19 09:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that you're relationship has ended, I completely understand how you feel, but noone should end their life over someone else, remember the good times you had & accept that it wasnt meant to be but dont wallow in self pity because you will only make yourself worse, try concentrating on picking yourself up, perhaps set yourself some goals. In the mean time take some time out & pamper yourself & remind yourself that you ARE worth so much more. take care, Vivi. xx
2006-09-19 09:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Vivi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey sit down and look at yourself in the mirror. What do you see?You dont need him,if he ever loved you he would never leave you and he would never be mean to you..He would have treated you like the princess you are but he is a selfish bastard who thinks you cant live without him and i'm sure he's waiting for you to go begging him to come back..It takes time to get over someone i have been there..it took me 2yrs to get over my ex but i did..You can too,if you need some one to talk to and dont feel like seeing a therapist go on line find a chat room with pipo going thru the same issue,cry if you need to only time heals all wounds..Im sure if you talked to your family members they will give you all the support you need..God loves you and please ask him to help you get thru it..Feel free to respond to this and we can chat some more..
2006-09-19 09:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by princess cee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicidal thoughts means its time to go see a consular. As far as you boyfriend, you deserve better, and will find better, then someone who treats you like this guy just did. Leave his stuff outside his door and go out and meet some people. If that to intimidating do some Internet dating. I guarantee you will find people who want to spend time with you.
2006-09-19 09:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you so don't waste your time about someone who doesn't appreciate you for how special you are. Go out and make some new friends, get a pet, take up a sport/hobby and don't be afraid of life...just because he's a loser doesn't mean you have to be one too.
2006-09-19 09:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get over someone. Do you think killing yourself will make him feel bad? Are you wanting him to feel guilty about leaving you? Take some time, cry it out and move on. If you really need someone to talk to, find a therapist or counsellor.
Good Luck.
2006-09-19 09:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get big trash bags and pack his stuff in them and put them outside your door for him to pick up then get dressed up and go out treat yourself to a big steak dinner cause you are worth it.
2006-09-19 09:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋