if all your boyfriend did was say that you dont love him and that your cheating on him?
2006-09-19 01:45:48 · 24 answers · asked by JR2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask him why he is so insecure and what you could do to reassure him that you are not cheating on him. Do this nicely. It sounds like he has had a bad relationship before you or his mother was a horrible example of what a spouse should be.
2006-09-19 01:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend, he is obviously cheating or very insecure and i don't want to be his counselor. move on there are too many men in the world and life is to short. Keeping him around with all of his issues is keeping you tied up and unavailable for the next maybe good guy to fill the time Good luck
2006-09-19 02:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each time he says those things to you, ask him, "Is that what you want?". When he says no, ask him, "Then why do you keep trying to put those thoughts into my head, when I'm perfectly happy with you?" For you need to make him realize that that is exactly what those type of comments tend to do in a relationship.
He says those things, because of his fears of inadequacies. He knows that there are more handsome men, more fun, more exciting, etc, and that causes him to think you might leave him for anyone of those. So you need to get to the bottom of what those fears are, to be able to mentally work them through with him, so that he will realize most fears we have in life are usually totally unjustified.
Here are a few things to help him realize... A person's personality can add a couple of points to their looks, and a love for that person can add a couple more points. Nobody is perfect, but it's the total number of points of the whole that makes our mate seem far more perfect, than initially we may have been attracted to them by. Thus they are more than just any one or two of those qualities; they are the total package; far more valuable to us than any of its parts.
2006-09-19 02:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave.
Wether you did or didn't cheat really wouldn't matter so much at this point, but his accusations and his low self esteem will only make things worse and worse before one or both of you crack.
There's also a possibility that he might also be cheating and his guilt is eating him and manifesting itself in him being overly paranoid about what you are doing when he's not around.
2006-09-19 01:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him and cheating on him why are you still with him poor guy tell him before other people do. LET HIM GO to find a woman who will love him. Do you love this other guy you both need to be happy in your life it may hurt you to break up with him but let him go if you don't love him
2006-09-19 01:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by jambo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have two options. You can either sit down and tell your boyfriend that he's the only man in your life and that you'll always be his every time he whines. This is exactly what he wants. Or else, you can take the sensible choice and tell him once and for all that if he wants to be with you, he need to be more secure in the relationship. If he's not ready to do that, you can simply walk out and avoid much heartache.
2006-09-19 01:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by anu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends if he is being insecure or if he is projecting his feelings onto you. If he is being insecure, reassuring him that you are faithful and love him should be enough, but remember that actions speak louder than words. We all get insecure at times and need reassurance from our partner, however constant insecurity is cause for concern. If this doesn't work, look for other signs like withdrawal or overly attentive, feelings of their being a new limit to your relationship, one-sided words or actions, etc to see if it's plausible that he is merely projecting his guilt at possibly cheating on you because he no longer is "in love" with you. I have experience both from the same girl, and you will find his insecurity is the major problem for one while his guilt would manifest itself in many other different facets of your relationship in the other.
2006-09-19 01:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, this is an easy one, are you paying attention? GET A NEW BOYFRIEND!!! Your boy friend is playing control games with you and you don't need ANYONE in your life that does that. Boyfriends are easy to find, take your time and get a good one.
2006-09-19 01:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!!
If that's the case, it seems that your bf doesn't trust you.. All you have to do is explain to him about your side and after doing so and he will still be telling you those things, end the relationship with him.. Because a relationship will not go that far without trust from your partner..
Take care..
Goodluck..
2006-09-19 01:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is putting his feelings on you!
I had a man that did that to me once, he accused me of cheating when it was HIM that was doing it! Guilty conscience will make u do things to the other person to make them feel as bad as they do.
Time to kick him to the curb,u deserve someone who loves you for you!
2006-09-19 01:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by koleebear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋