2006-09-19 00:49:09 · 15 answers · asked by OnionSkin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For me (a girl) it was hard, I always knew I was different, I knew that all the other girls were looking at guys and saying things like oh he is hot.. and I could see that they were nice looking and I could appreciate the male form for a work of art.. but never felt attracted to it.. and I would love a man for his personality but it would never go any further than a very deep friendship. but I would look at some of my female friends with longing and wonderment and I would want to get way more intense with them..
But then I tried to be a "good girl" and "play it straight" so I found a boyfriend and got married and had children and stayed married for 14 LONG years and stayed unfufilled and was even misurable, dont get me rong I love my children and wanted them desparately but I didnt realize that I had other options. I didnt know that I could fufill my longing for love with another female and have the children I always wanted...
Finaly after 14 years I could take no more and my children were old enough to understand and my husband deserved more than to have a wife that would never love him, as I believe that he probably realy loved me and I did not fufill him because I was not fufilled and that was not fair to either of us. Just because I was not happy I forced him into a life of unhappyness and misery. and Now im having to sort out where everything went rong and take the blame where blame is due...
So how did I know I was gay... I knew because everyone that was straight around me was falling in love and being happy with there life wile I was still searching for my happyness and I was trying to emulate their happyness by copying them instead of just being me and following my heart and my true self.. and following my true attraction to females where it has always been.. and where it is now at home with my partner (a female) where I am finaly fufilled and now I have found that not only am I happy but my children are happy as well...
I know this is more than you asked but I felt I needed to share...
You see when you follow your heart it feels at first like it will be tourturous but in the end it realy does work out for the best..
before I followed my heart .. I was misurable and so was my husband and children.. now my children are happy and their grades in school have gone up to straight "a's" and they are more outgoing... and even my ex husband is happier in a wierd kind of way... and I am working out where everything in my life is.. and I am much happier..
anyway I will stop rambeling for now...
I just hope my sharing has helped you in some way or someone else that reads this answer.
2006-09-19 02:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I questioned why I liked this girl in my fifth grade class so much and was glad when she was in my sixth grade class, then disappointed when she moved away. It wasn't until seventh grade that I knew my infatuations for the same sex were different than the admiration feelings I felt for the opposite. I wanted to be good at sports like guys and strong like them, but when I looked at girls it was all hormonal and sexually driven. After this I realized girls I liked when I was way younger and think about if I was born this way or if there is something I can pin point it to.
2006-09-19 02:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by 4me2no&u2findout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was at senoir school i went out with men but it never last long i just wasn't really interested. Plus i had a massive crush on my best mate who was Bi lol. In the end i just met a girl and fell in love with her and i've been with her ever since it just feels so right to me to be with a women rather than a man.
2006-09-19 01:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by tizzy_em85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not Gay, but i am Bisexual and I knew this since I was 17. I'm 24 now.
2006-09-19 04:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by mystic_lonewolf22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just knew I was different. I didn't know that it had a name until I was about 14 or so, and even later before I actually accepted that this was who I was and stopped fighting it.
2006-09-19 09:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a crush on my sixth grade teacher and knew there was something different about me than the majority of people around me.
2006-09-19 02:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by justincausejustintime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because I have always been attracted to women all of my life, and yes I have gone out with guys, not the thing for me, I LOVE MY WOMEN. Peace be with you.
2006-09-20 04:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew because the male body attracts me and the female body does NOTHING for me. The manly look, smell, muscles, hair...
Yea, it wasn't a big problem for me. I just knew.
2006-09-19 04:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by phrensied 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess when I really started to like looking at guys
2006-09-19 02:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By knowing my attraction was for members of the same sex and having no sexual attraction to the opposite sex at all.
2006-09-19 00:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋