Almost 3 years ago,we parted fr each other bec we silently knew we're not for each other. I was to marry some1 else, and he has to go somewhere else. Very abrupt, he left with a message "It's probably best this way". W/o saying a formal "goodbye".
So I married. After sev months, he e-mailed me. Confessing his feeling that he had been catching himself thinking of me. I answered but did not entertain what he said. I just ask him how he was casually.. The e-mail has been consistent after that.
I got pregnant. I was surprised, he knew it. I did not answer his e-mails for about 6 months, bec I was avoiding him, for a reason that it was the proper way to do. But he kept sending his mails. Even the time when I deliver my child. He knew it. I didn't know who was his informer.
1 day, I answered his mail again just to answer some of his questions. Then he asked me if I would still be meeting him if ever. We've been emailing for 2 years. I just wonder how he really feels 4 me.
2006-09-19 00:03:53 · 10 answers · asked by naive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey you are married now, with a child. The e-mails should have stopped when you felt he was beyond friendship.Unless of course you are still struggling with feelings for him yourself. You may need proper closure to this relationship if this is what you want. Be fair to your husband, be honest to yourself
2006-09-19 00:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew that you weren't for each other, then why did you start, then continue to answer his e-mails? Is this e-mail relationship a prop or security blanket type of thing, or is it strictly a friendship? Are you happily married? These are questions that you need to think about. Find out who his informer is, a friend or family member is my guess. Ask that person why they've been keeping him informed, and, if it bothers you, ask them to stop. If you can't go on without discovering how he feels for you, then ask him straight out...just be prepared for whatever answer you get. Then perhaps you should re-evaluate you own relationship at home with your husband.
2006-09-19 08:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever he feels to you , you have to think as a married woman and your husband who I think he loves you don't have any guilt in your past relations , you have to stop meeting or at least mailing this man except as a friend and if he talk to you as a friend only and you have to take care of your husband and your child.
2006-09-19 07:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Aly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are already married. even though you know that he knows it, explain it clearly to him that he must not disturb you anymore. you deserve his respect since you both have decided to go your own separate ways before. if he doesn't stop, then you stop entertaining him. it doesn't make sense if you entertain him or if you spend time thinking of the way you think now, because you already have your own new life now. if you need to change you e-mail address, do it. before it destroys your married life.
2006-09-19 07:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by achi516 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it is obvious how he feels for you. He hasn't gotten over you. If you are still emailing him, ask him. But be prepared for his answer. you need to look at your family now and see how you feel about your husband. if you still want to be his friend and that's it then tell him and tell your husband that you are still friends with your ex and tell him that you have been emailing him.
2006-09-19 07:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really have to ask yourself a question, do you still love him? it's obvious he loves you, but only you can answer to your own feelings. if your not happy with who your with now and you still love him, get back together. if your happy let him deal with it and move on in life
2006-09-19 07:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by vitamin r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him, change you email address and phone numbers (if necessary)... you have a husband and child, unless you aren't happy in that relationship...
2006-09-19 07:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a mirror, slap your face silly & do a reality check.
2006-09-19 07:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a story cdnt concet
2006-09-19 07:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why did you guys not try a little harder
2006-09-19 07:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋