you meet a girl .. u get to know her for a while ,, then move to her place or w.e then get married .. after 2 years u get a divocred? WHY !?! didnt u get to know her b4 u marry her? didnt u study her perosnallity and see if u and her get along .. didnt u live with her for a while b4 u marry her ? i dont see any ecxuses for people to get fall apart !! unless she/he cheats or got some issues .. !!
im asking people who were married ,what was the biggest porblem made u two got a divorce??!!?
u didnt see the problem when u were dating him/her ?
2006-09-18 23:19:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't now why that's sad. i know as for myself I'm NEVER getting divorced, EVER!! I love my WIFEY wayyyyyy to much and I thank God we have an amazing relationship and marriage
2006-09-18 23:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by MexiShortieHubby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How I wish I could ans were this question!!!!Still let me give it a try. I am separated from my hubby not yet divorced but heading there I guess. When we are together we only fight and when separated I only miss him and can only think of the good memories, no matter how few and far in between they were. In my case I can safely say I didn't know him.Knew him as a friend for 6 yrs before marriage but it is absolutely true that what u look for in a boyfriend and what you expect from a marriage are 2 whole diff rent things, both sides .Our biggest problem amongst other smaller problems after a lot of analyzing if I could say was that our VALUES were diff rent. With a child in the picture values start to play a major role, otherwise one doesn't consciously think of it I guess and so we end up hurting ourselves.Its important. Very important coz thats what ultimately decides the way ur life is headed..and thats one thing you dont want to lose control of.
2006-09-19 00:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ice mother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our biggest problem was infidelity and financial. We both cheated (yes, I did too and I admit it) and we had major financial issues that caused a lot of problems and arguments. We got married very young and as time passed, we both changed. Unfortunately, with us changing, it made us very uncompatiable and we didn't like who the other changed into. Sometimes it does happen. But with a lot of marriages, people tend to throw in the towel as soon as it gets tough. (We didn't. We tried and tried until we couldn't anymore.) Marriage is suppose to be "for better and worse" but people forget the worse part. A lot of people think marriage is this big romantic fanatasy they dream it'd be and reality bites them in the butt. Marriage is hard work and no one really expects it. Those couples who do expect it are the ones that last.
2006-09-18 23:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married 3 years, worked very hard to build an honest and trusting relationship, one day he came home and packed and left, I was needless to say devastated...he broke 1 of the 10 commandments, Thou shalt not commit adultery (his girlfriend had the nerve to call and tell me actually she wanted to gloat). This is one reason why marriages end. People just do not honor their vows and have no morals!!!
And no I would have never guessed that he would go back to someone that caused him so much heartache and misery before (they had a history and it was horrible). He was a fool and he now wants to reconcile with me. I leave that in the Lords hands, I can forgive but I'll never be able to forget...
2006-09-18 23:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell u something no matter how long u r with a person before u r married when u get married u will still have problems. I dont think couples really know what they did have till its over. Believe me, me and my wife have been seperated for 2 yrs but i held on had faith and now we r talking and rekindling what we had. It takes alot from both but if u love one another and stop and think what u have then it should work out.
2006-09-19 00:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by robert_hall85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my reason for a divorce was simple..I had a child..my husband chested on me from the time she was 4 mons. old so after 2 years of that Bull Sh*t I got a DIVORCE..You know people aren't perfect and you can study them a life time and still not know every detail..This life is all about TRIAL AND ERROR...cheating,beating,emotional,mental abuse is all grounds for divorce i don't care if you have been married 14 times..if you aren't happy or are being MIStreated GET A DIVORCE..don't stay with someone for other people,children..or because your parents say divorce is the devil...
2006-09-19 00:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by crazyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am married. But I believe those who divorce have strong reasons for doing so. The Law gives some of the grounds to be cruelty, adultery, irreconcilable differrences etc. Couples forget to continue doing kind things for each other and this affects their love life negatively. Dont get discouraged, some couples never divorce.
2006-09-19 00:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by tomnjerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce happened to me because i failed to meet her needs, she said. She wished i could of been everything he is, but i wasn't. so she left. She left for someone she said was nicer. He is married and has kids, but she is attached to him. she now has her own place and he lives with her. I divorced her becauce of adultry. Adultry was my reason for divorce. she told me she left me in her heart long before the other guy came into her life. We were married 24 years and had 6 beautiful childern. go figure. Times have changed. the problem i had is i didn't change and follow the worlds view but she did. I do hope the best for her and i do miss her, but life goes on and NOW i need to.
2006-09-18 23:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by james.ampmerch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We live in an age of the "quick-fix". Fast food, fast cars, therapy ala Dr.Phil etc...When problems arise and people are not emotionally equipped to handle the situation or clueless as to know what to do then the "fight or flight" kicks in and they fly. It's easier than staying.
2006-09-19 01:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not, been married 15 years.
2006-09-18 23:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋