hello,i need advice ,,today i have a court appearance to testify in a domestic violence charge?

Question

on a man whom which i know,the only problem here is that i'm also the victom,i can not bring myself to hurt this person,,,,yes i know that he hurt me,please advise me so that i may get threw this day and feel good about it at the end,,thank you in advance for your time

Answer 1

Be strong.You are NOT a victim,you are a survivor.It is so important that you hold your head up high and ensure justice is done.I am also a survivor,I was punched in the head and fell downstairs(I was 6 months pregnant),I have been left for dead outside,you name it I've been through it.What I want you to know is that you are doing the right thing,remember all us women who have been through this.I now have a wonderful partner,and my girls are 12 and 13,doing well at school.You have your whole life ahead of you,this needs closure,and properly.Hurt him? That makes me laugh.Anything that happens to him he deserves.Creep!!!!! You deserve happiness and treated with the upmost respect.I will be thinking of you today,good luck and be strong!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I'm a Guard for a Police Service, I've seen this scenario plenty of times.
It's gonna end one of 3 ways:
1) He gets the help he deserves - he isn't gonna look for it, he'll have to be dragged kicking and screaming to it.
2) He hurts you worse...or kills you - you help him get the help he deserves (during your long hospital stay). It sounds like you fall into this category.
3) You commit suicide - in a vulnerable moment, after he finished beating you for the ump-teenth time that day, despair drives you to doing what seems the only way out.

The last example (#3) happened in a house a stone's throw away from the detachment. No one knew what was going on...except her "best friend".

Answer 3

I know what you would like to hear is, well just don't tell them much and he will be happy and it will be over and everything will be good but, the truth in the matter is you have to tell what happened. If you don't you are taking the chance of this happening to someone else or you again. You wouldn't want anyone to go through what you went through right? Believe I've been in this situation, my dad abused my mother for years on end. It's a bad situation but in the end after she finally stood up for herself and went through the whole court thing he actually got help. Just remember that one day your daughter or sister or best friend might me in this situation, and what would you want them to do? Good luck!

Answer 4

If he has physically abused you or assaulted you please do tell the court that.
The abuse may consist of getting work done without pay like you doing house hold chores for him, not taking you out when you want to go out, not letting you go, physically preventing you,

the assaults might consist of him slapping you, pushing you around, beating you and causing physical pain or hurt and injury.

If any of these have accured, tell the court without any inhibitions, there is no question of anyone being hurt here, The truth is important to protect other innocent people from being abused , used and hurt later.

Answer 5

What can anybody say, least of all somebody who has never met you?

The fact is that your situation is quite typical, and that you either have to find a mentor or someone to back you up and encourage you to leave -- and preferably go far away -- or this will be repeated throughout your life until you are beyond recovering.

If you have no children, if their lives and welfare are not at stake, and if you have the wherewithall to change your life, do so now.

Otherwise you will be victimized forever.

Answer 6

No one wants to be hurt, beaten or made to feel inferior. Women stay in abusive relationships for a number of reasons. Women may have nowhere to go. They may believe that it is better for their children to stay in a stable home. For many women, the reason they stay is because of fear. Statistics show that 75% of women who are murdered by their batterers are killed when they leave or after they leave the relationship.
There is no single reason for abuse. Violence is a means of trying to exercise power and control over someone else. Many batterers were victims of abuse as children or came from families in which spousal abuse was prevalent. It is important to remember, however, that not all people who were victims of abuse as children will turn into batterers.
Just as there is not one reason for abuse, there is not one type of batterer. Many batterers are highly successful professionally and in other areas of their lives. With history and society to support their beliefs, they may have little remorse or regret over battering. Go through with it, you owe it to yourself..GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

It is never right for a man to beat a woman. You could never have a good relationship cause you may forgive but you will NEVER forget. He deserves what he gets. Be strong and just tell the truth, you will be under oath. Good luck.

Answer 8

goochy livetv carried a phone pole on your?

* is that you woman....Dr pat
*hey dont let know one hurts you okay its wrong or ill comes around therz an kick there....................Wazza
*whats going on with z world today when people want to disrespect those who they love...............mum

hey yes dont you feel quilty they r the one that did wrong remember that your a good person an its sad when those we tend to love the most sometimes........end up doing things that can hurt us but if you dont ever tell someone they are direspecton you howz they going to even learn ef there not ever told,,,,,,,,,,,,

Answer 9

it's not up to you anymore other than to testify ! the judge will know what to do from here on in ! He did this himself and now will have to pay ! You'll be OK !

Answer 10

You may prevent him from doing it to someone else if he gets some sort of punishment for it. Speak up even if you are afraid.