I did not always think it would last, but after so many years, you just lose so many chips on the shoulder, and become best friends. You have to go through a lot, and I just wonder, if you had to do it all over again, would you, could you, marry the same person?
2006-09-18 23:12:15 · 17 answers · asked by shardf 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S. I have been married before. My husband and I have been married 44 yrs., and I love him even more now that we have time to know each other better. We are retired with 10 grandchldren. Love just gets better as you age and improves if it is going to. I think it takes love to make it stick, and give each other the independence and not just own that person. We never cheated, that I am aware of, but he was never suffocating. It makes a difference.
2006-09-18 23:22:19 · update #1
oh, yes, the first one was a jerk, and I do not regret that he and I are not together. My oldest son is from that marriage, and he does not think he missed anything either. My first husband let my husband adopt him. We had two other children together.
2006-09-18 23:24:38 · update #2
yes, I would do it, because as the marriage matures, you tend to know each other better and once you know the positive and negatives of each other, you are always at an advantage to be more friendly and careful the next time round for a better and beautiful relationship again
2006-09-18 23:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by pandchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really made me think. I ask myself that question from time to time. I married at 22 and now i think i was too young.I'm 28 at present. We knew each other for about 9 months. I think that more than a husband I needed someone to stay close to me as I had been through a very difficult time in my life. My older brother died at the age of 23. I gave him all my love anyway. He was a pefect husband and a perfect father to our daughter, who's 4 and a half now. The only problem was: He used to gamble. I caught him gambling many times, and he always said it would be the last time. I once had no money to buy food...I've forgiven him many, many times. I used to think he needed me more than he loved me, and told him that too. He doesn't gamble anymore, but sometimes i feel like I want to run away...I never cheated on him and tried my best to be a good mum and wife. Sometimes I ask myself, what it would be like to be free. I wouldn't want any man by my side at all.
So dir Mme..., the honest answer to your question is I don't know. I love him and I know he loves me, we are still married and I'm still trying hard to make it work, but I don't know if I would marry him again. Propably not...
2006-09-19 01:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Claudia M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could go back and do it all over again... I KNOW I wouldn't have married my first wife - that's for damn sure; but from that marriage, I have three wonderful sons.
My wife now, I have known for over 25 years and not only would I marry her again, I should have pursued a relationship when we first met in high school. My wife is my best friend, she's a healer, she's a therapist, she's a counselor, she's a gourmet chef, she's a 'bishop', she's a teacher... she's been all of that and more, especially to me and I would either be in a looney bin or gravely ill without her in my life.
2006-09-19 00:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man I am married to is my first and only ever marriage, we have only been married for 8 years but in that 8 years we have faced things together that we never ever dreamed we would have and have come through toghter than ever. We are best friends. You know better than I do what you want to know. You are living it, but given a choice to marry my husband again, I say yes, I would most definitely and unequivocably yes.
2006-09-18 23:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every step I have taken in life has lead to where I am now. Just one different turn and it could have been different. I would not change one thing in my life what so every.
I found my sole-mate as so did my wife. We have very little as far as money goes but we have so much more than money could never buy.
I would marry my wife again in a heart beat and if we were to start over again we both would want to be where we are now.
2006-09-19 00:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am planning a separation at the moment...we are probably still good friends and dear friends, but I'm not sure if i wanna say married to him. We have 2 lovely children whom i love dearly but we have not beenb initmate fo a very very long time...the last got me pregnanat with my son who is now 4.
He cheated on me and is remorseful, but still we are like roommates in the same house...is there really a point in carrying on this marriage? Maybe your wisdom will enlighten the path i am to take. Pls email me at ikusburples@yahoo.com.sg
2006-09-18 23:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by ikusburples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely marry my husband all over again. He is my best friend in the whole world and we have had so many mountains to cross (because of his ex wife), but it has made us the strongest couple I know. I love him with all my heart and soul and he is the only man for me.
2006-09-19 05:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt go back at all! I cherish every moment i have with the person i love and i dont regret a moment that has passed. Good OR bad! I wouldnt want to change anything!
2006-09-18 23:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not marry either of the men that I married, I divorced both of them for very good reason! If I had the chance to marry my b/f now then I would marry him and I want to be with him for ever.
2006-09-19 01:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I certainly would. I have been married to my husband for 31 and a half years now, and although we have been through great sorrows together, through them we have grown stronger individually and together. I caught a great fish! lol
2006-09-19 08:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋