we used to never fight but lately its been 2 or 3 times a week my freinds keep telling me we need space but i dont know if i should listen to them
2006-09-18 22:56:48 · 11 answers · asked by little one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you have grown apart!
2006-09-18 23:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're adults now, with responsibilities....find out why you are arguing, and look at what has changed in your lives as people rather than as a couple.
Your friends don't know your life as a couple explicity, so their opinion isn't with merit.
You just need to evaluate WHY you are fighting, and if being with each other is the cause.
Even if that is the reason, you're not a lost cause. There are ways to get things back on track...
BUT, don't compare who you are now, to who you were 8 years ago. Things have changed a lt since then, you've both grown up...maybe at different speeds.
2006-09-19 06:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by byrne4u2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been with my bf since i was 14 and im now 20, it is completely normal to go through rough patches. it is to be expected when you are with someone for so long. 'needing space' doesnt have to mean that you dont see each other for weeks. when me and my bf start to go through an argumentative stage we might decide to have some space for just a day or two. when you meet up after that rest the arguments you were having will seem irrelevant. most importantly when you do see each other you have to make it worthwhile, the cause of arguments between me and my bf always seems to be that we are bored, not with each other but it just seems that sometimes you can forget the great things that have kept you together for so long. so the point im making is when you spend time together dont let yourselves get bored. go for meals, cook, have plenty of early nights, go for walks together, surprise each other with silly gifts and days out. when you've been with someone for a long time you cant expect it to be as it was when you first met, that initial spark does tend to die but that doesnt mean that new sparks cant be created, sometimes things have to be worked at for everything else to fall into place.
2006-09-19 06:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by brooke d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, your friend is right. Both of you need to space out. Maybe both of you do not feel the sparkle that you both used to have has gone. Maybe both of you have grown bored of each other and things weren't the same as last time. Or myabe both of you wanted to look for something new and more exciting. I don't mean to break both of you up. But why not try to keep a distance between each other first and let time decide for you and see where it takes you.
2006-09-19 06:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by curiosity_22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in a relationship for 6yrs since i was 15 now 21, we went through a stage where would fight all the time, we just had a week or so to our selfs now we r happy as ever, & sorted out why we fight, and what to do to stop the fights from beginning, good luck if you love each other u will make it happen, ps what do u fight about
2006-09-19 06:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Karina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a long time and if no break ups (as in straight), then congratulations in going that far. I think your friends might want you to themselves to hang out with for some time. If space as in break up, I don't think it's recommended if you and your boyfriend love each other and do not want to break up at all. All you have to do is follow your heart, do what you think is right. But if space as in not spending too much time with him anymore, but still going out, then consider some time to spend with your friends.
2006-09-19 06:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by MICKEY MOUSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be with one another this long starting from that young of an age. You are getting tired of one another and 1) need your space, and 2) need to experience other relationships with other people. You live and you learn.
2006-09-19 06:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be because you still kids and that you've been like a married couple the last 8 yrs. Take a brake from each other, Start date other people.
2006-09-19 06:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sassoun K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulation 4 this long relation,
u don't need any space. be together as u want
2006-09-19 06:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by marjan m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats for ur longggggggg relationship.. i think u guys rock.. go for him.. who else will know u better than this guy
2006-09-19 06:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋