In dilemma....... help!!!!!!!!?

Question

i have a friend I known for 5 years, let's say ashley, and i got to know this guy,M, through ashley. ashley is attached, and money try to go after her. ashley is kind of play girl and went out with him several times. then things starts to get ugly, and these two fren of mine, always calling and telling different stories. for example
1. ashley said "they never start relationship as BF/GF" M said they start relationship since februrary.
2. ashley said he force to kiss her, hold her hands and hug her. M said she's willing to kiss and hug him.
3. ashely said money ask $8000 for break up. M said ashley willing to give him $8000 for breakup
see where's the conflict? i am stuck in between. how to make things clear for me and not hurting both side? seriously need advice. every nite i get calls from both side, telling me stories... going crazy soon

forget to add in: i didn't mention what they are telling me to the other party

Answer 1

When each calls you next, tell him / her that you don't want to hear him / her b-i-t-c-h about the other in their absence.

It's best that all three sit across the table maybe at a cafetaria and sort things out over a cup of coffee. If its quits for them, let the chapter close then itself and if its not, clarify in the presence of both that you don't want to be the sounding board of either and thenceforth, they are welcome to call you but not to speak a word about the other friend i.e. Ashley should not discuss M with you and M should not discuss Ashley with you.

Soon you will regain your sanity too!!

Answer 2

O.K. here is what you do. if you dont know what side to choose dont tell them both you are there as a friend for them but you are not going to get in the middle of there relationship. tell them both if you are unhappy just drop it and move on. if ashley is a playgirl as u say she is i would say that she is exagerating the circumstances to make herself look like the victim. however i do not know her so you have to make your own call on that. if they call and start complaining change the subject an sooner or later they will get the hint that you do not want to be in the middle.

Answer 3

Which one of them do you consider a closer friend? The guy is more likely to lie about the situations such as the willingness of kissing and or hugging etc all guys are like that. I would just tell them both that you will be there for both of them as friends but your not going to let them tear you apart from the other one.. if you understand that.

Answer 4

u try to tell the two friend of u . telling her and he i cannot handle you two problem cos i also got mine to. and tell them u two are suffering me as a victim , if still cannot u tell them where to meet and them u put them togther and u at there also and discuss what the problem and u help the both side to a justice of them

in other side he also cannot push her to do that kiss and hud her , want to ask her realy want to you girl friend before that

in the her side why she want to ask he to pay so many money did he sleep with her if not why want to pay ,

or you change the topic when them are talking about each other
like this" do u know last nite i see my dad ask me want to go austria , their say next month to take me thier " like this is does't matter true or cheat them unless u and them happy .

Answer 5

Just tell them both its none of your business and that you don't want to get involved, repeat that a few times and you'll find that they won't keep on about it to you.

Answer 6

Tell them you dont want to be in the middle!

Answer 7

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