I caught my sister having sex with my fiance, I was heart broken what should I do now?

Question

I loved both my sister and fiance very much but now I don't know what to do' They have asked me to forgive them but I just can't' i'm really hurt. Help me please!!!

Answer 1

First and Foremost let me tell you, You didn't deserve that.!!! That was a terrible thing to do on your sisters' part, she is your blood though, can never change that. Him however was just a user, and a horny sad excuse for a lover. You should forget all about him and give your sister the chance to regain your trust, only if you can. But I wouldn;t leave her alone with any other future boyfriends. Best of Luck!

Answer 2

Firstly, have you ever cheated on your fiance?!
If not, then never ever speak to him again. And the same for your sister, untill they both crack with guilt. You can't disown your sister, but your fiance just HAS to go. If there's been a first time there will ALWAYS be a second and third and...
If they have asked for forgiveness then you know they don't really care, if they honestly felt bad they would not expect you to forgive them.

Good luck, im really sorry for you!

Answer 3

So so sorry. He is now and FOREVER your ex fiance. You MUST forgive them, but you must also revisit how you relate to them, most of all your sister. Forgiveness is a hard to understand and usually neglected concept, but we must do it as God has forgiven us. Forgiving them, contrary to what you might think does NOT mean you condone or accept them. Work through your hurt, cry out to them and let them feel your pain. Then understand that it is better that you discovered what a bastard he is before you became his wife. Your sister has some serious self esteem and border issues. That is not your PROBLEM, but something to think about. Hope you feel better. I know that you will be blessed with a wonderful man in the near future.

Answer 4

Why didn't both of them think of the consequences behind this courageous act? or maybe they were well aware of the consequences and were hoping for never to get caught. Well, maybe you did something good in life that you know the real picture of your fiance, he could have cheated you when you have 2 kids, married. It better you know him now then later. I say dump him, he is a great risk to your life and future. He doesn't care about you, he is selfish.

Your sister, hmmmm, i cannot say much, why did she do that.....its maybe she is jealous of you or maybe she just wants to try wht is your so she is always one up from you.

I blame more to your fiance, it was a great test for him, to reject your sister, but i guess he failed the test.

I know you must be feeling totally broken, betrayed and used, but again i must say you are very lucky that you know his true picture. Dont worry, you'll find the right person soon, the person who will love you in happiness and sorrows, in good time and bad time...support you in all aspects of life...after all we human only want happiness, good health and peace.

If you are a good person, and you have never done anything to hurt others, you'll find some1 soon...some1 better...

Answer 5

i hope this is not serious!

this shows your fiance either doesn't care about you, or at least doesn't care enough to not seize any opportunity for sex with someone else. That doesn't sound good at all. You should dump the guy, or else he'll just go for it, time and time again.

as for your sister, well, sisters are forever. But how do you make peace? Maybe she just wanted easy sex and she thought the guy good-looking, and she should not have done it, but by doing it she's helped you to see that the guy was not worth it, and saved you from a probably unhappy marriage. Or else, she just really fell in love with the guy, and maybe she would like for him to be her fiance (but then she should watch out, if he is so promiscuous).

Good luck

Answer 6

You poor baby.....this is really so sad and painful for you. Do you have anyone there helping you through this painful time, I hope so. Your mind must be all over the place and so please... try and relax by breathing and being aware of your breathing, this will help you to stay calm... which is what you need right now.
Take time out from the both of them..... give yourself some space. Of course at this point you can't forgive them.... and you don't have to try....if you don't want to, with time your emotions will find it's balance and then you can decide how you want to deal with the both of them.....
Let me give you a suggestion : Maybe , writing them both a letter and telling them how you feel about what they did might help get a load of feelings off you, this way you don't have to see them.
But do think of walking away from this relationship and maybe one day you'll find it in your heart to forgive your sister. Please take care of yourself.

Answer 7

You got to love this guy. This is a true story about a recent wedding
that took place at Clemson University . It was in the local newspaper
and even Jay Leno mentioned it. It was a huge wedding with about 300
guests.

After the wedding, at the reception, the groom got up on stage with a
microphone to talk to the crowd. He said he wanted to thank everyone for
coming, many from long distances, to support them at their wedding.

He especially wanted to thank the bride's and his family and to thank
his new father-in-law for providing such a lavish reception. As a token
of his deep appreciation he said he wanted to give everyone a special
gift just from him. So taped to the bottom of everyone's chair,
including the wedding party was an envelope. He said this was his gift
to everyone, and asked them to open their envelope.

Inside each manila envelope was an 8x10 glossy of his bride having sex
with the best man. The groom had gotten suspicious of them weeks
earlier and had hired a private detective to tail them.

After just standing there, just watching the guests' reactions for a
couple of minutes, he turned to the best man and said, "F--- you!" Then
he turned to his bride and said, "F--- you!" Then he turned to the
dumbfounded crowd and said, "I'm outta here."

He had the marriage annulled first thing in the morning. While most
people would have canceled the wedding immediately after finding out
about the affair, this guy goes through with the charade, as if nothing
were wrong. His revenge--making the bride's parents pay over $32,000 for a 300 guest wedding and reception, and best of all, trashing the bride's and best man's reputations in front of 300 friends and family members. Thisguy has balls the size of church bells.

Do you think we might get a MasterC ard "priceless" commercial out of
this?

Elegant wedding reception for 300 family members and friends: $32,000.

Wedding photographs commemorating the Occasion: $3,000

Deluxe two week honeymoon accommodations in Maui : $8,500

The look on everyone's face when they see the 8x10 glossy of the bride
humping the best man: Priceless

Answer 8

Hi there!! That's sad to hear from you.. Anyway, you should be glad that you knew it as early as now.. On the other hand, forgiving them will start the things that you needed to do.. Forgive them espacially your sister but it doesn't mean that you will just take the instance as easy as that.. Think of it if you wanted to continue your relationship with your fiance or not but I suggest you let him go and if he will be choosing your sister, cheer up, don't take those things seriously..

For this instance, you will be able to find the right person for you who will love you truly..

Goodluck.. Take care..

Answer 9

Dump the piece of sh!t fiance(sorry, dont mean to be mean, but he is sleeping with your SISTER!) And tell them both to stay out of your life. Take some time out to heal and re-think things and when you feel better, you can slowly patch things up with your sister. If he can do this once, he will do it again, therefore cut him out of your life forever. As for your sister, you should stay away from her for a while, but she is your sister and you will have to make peace with it later. Remember: You dont have to forgive now - you will come around to forgiving them. For now, just take some time out. Sorry to heart about this, but good luck.

Answer 10

you must be feeling terrible... being betrayed by two people who SHOULD have freaking cared enough to not do such a hurtful thing.
I want you to think what was going thru your fiance's mind when he decided to go ahead and commit such an act- I am sure he considered YOU, but he CHOSE to belittle you and basically, his action translates into "The heck with her". This is a very strong betrayal and you must not get back with him.
Forgive them in time, but you have the right to be angry.
But please, don't do anything self-destructive.

Those two are the ones who are supposed to be wondering what to do to BEG for your pardon.
Meanwhile, you please be strong, and talk to a good friend who will support you during this 'alone' time.
Remember, do not let them see your hurt. And chances are, they don't care if they could do that to you.
Be strong and just accept that there are such unkind people out there.