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Hey I’ll be starting college in a few days and I just moved into a dorm. I don’t know anyone in this city and I’m wondering if anyone has some useful tips. I’m one of those people who doesn’t make friends very easily. It’s not that I’m unattractive, rude or some freak. I just have a hard time being myself around new people. It’s almost like I don’t know how to act, and it’s not that I even WANT to “act” a certain way, I can’t help it. I’ve been home schooled, and yes I know people, but I pretty much had one really close friend, other then family. When I’m around her I can talk about anything (the guys we date, people, etc.), and I’m totally myself. She just moved to a different state and it’s hard enough with her gone let alone all the new pressures around me. Just so some of you can get a better idea of me, most people would say I’m rich, pretty, and snobby. I think my thing is I make myself seem above people because I’m scared of what they will really think if they see what I’m like. I know my last statement about me sounds rather vane, but I don’t mean for it to. People say it, that’s all. And yes people say I’m beautiful, blah blah blah, all that stuff but I think the thing about me is I’m just scared they will think differently if they would really see what I’m like... I prefer to stay in my little cocoon and feel like people think I’m some perfect little snob. I’m not saying I am, or even if people really think that, like I said, “prefer to THINK that” but it doesn’t mean it’s true, or even that I believe it is. sorry I’m repeating myself but I want to get my point across.
Anyway if you have any helpful things to say I’ll be glad to hear it. IF YOU ARE ONE OF THE MANY SELF-RIGHTEOUS SNOBS ON HERE WHO ARE ABOVE EVERYONE AND ALL YOU HAVE TO SAY IS “BE YOURSELF” ETC. I DON’T WANT TO HEAR IT. I’M SORRY BUT I DON’T SEEM TO KNOW HOW TO JUST “BE MYSELF”, WELL GUESS WHAT? I DON’T CHOOSE TO BECOME A SCARED LITTLE SNOB WHO DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO ACT. TRUST ME, IF I COULD I ‘DD BE PRETTY GLAD CONSIDERING I WOULD HAVE TO GO THROUGH A LOT LESS. BUT MAYBE THE FACT THAT SOME PEOPLE AREN’T LITTLE SOCIAL BUTTERFLIES IS BEYOND YOU. THANKS AND DON’T WASTE TIME OR YOURS

Answer 1

Just relax and be yourself you wil have lots of friends . If not email me

Answer 2

Just be NICE....don't even think about it. If you need help or directions, smile and be nice!! If someone gives you a stupid answer and are rude to you despite your good manners, stick em a bird and head butt them! No just kidding! Try your best to just go with the flow! Really, focus on why you are at school. The truth be told, you don't have to be a social butterfly upon arrival. It will come in time, just don't be afraid of it when it knocks on the door of your dorm room and hands you a flyer to come to a party! Just SMILE and take the flyer, go, you may be surprised at what you discover. Just be careful!

Answer 3

Concentrate really hard on your studies instead of socializing. That way, even if you don't make the best of friends in college...you'll at least have a good education and good grades...leading to a better job in the future. Don't socialize if you don't want to, find someone like yourself and get a close circle of friends instead of a big bum crowd. Keep to yourself and join some clubs if you want to meet people, just don't go drinking and partying to get 'in' with the crowd...you'll flunk out of college instead.

Answer 4

I believe it had something to do with your character. Correct me if I have made a wrong guess, I think you are tthose quiet type of person and very protective of youself. I think you shouldn't change your character bcoz you want to know more friends. Instead try to expand your social life gradually coz you definitely need to mix around with others when you start working.
Character is something that is unique to everybody so you are not wrong and you shouldn't be too bother by people say about you.

Answer 5

I believe that you are not the only person facing such problem. Modern people spend too much time on internet, communication through telecom device, which resulting them not able to get along with people well. I don't believe in changing myself to suit into the community. But always remember to be sincere in treating others, what you don't like people to do on you, others also don't like too. So long you are sincere, you still can be yourself and will find your true friends.

Answer 6

right it extremely is a itemizing of basic issues a million. Get energetic workout on a daily basis 2. No alcohol in any respect (yeah, i be attentive to you're 14) 3. No espresso/tea/cola/chocolate simply by fact they have caffeine 4. Write down a itemizing of your issues and strategies for them. 5. Self help books, such simply by fact the hot temper scientific care 6. rest suggestions, inclusive of meditation 7. superb could be to have cognitive behaviour scientific care (CBT) 8. drugs and organic stuff (organic nonsence) are issues you are able to desire to evade. rigidity is rather treatable. in case you do no longer cope with it, it extremely is depressing, has a tendency to persist and might furnish up you doing besides as you prefer to. P.S. you do no longer even have intense blood rigidity.

Answer 7

I wont just say be yourself, because you don't seem to understand that.
How i will put it is go do something you like to do, a movie, restaurant, bowling ect. In the process of doing this you will meet people who have the same interests as you!

Answer 8

Check out ( http://www.reducingstress.net )
It is a really good stress site.
There are lots of articles on all stress related topics.
I think you will find help for this situation there.

Answer 9

approach them if you saw the same person everyday try to talk to the person or you say hi ,hello,bye.maybe they will be friends with you .don`t you evertime thing of stress try not to think of that.

Answer 10

hey, dont be afraid. have confident and be yourself. I think you will have no problem handling the situation. cheers!