What can I do to support him and help him? We both strongly believe that for our children's best interest I should stay home with them to raise them, nurture them and teach them, so me getting a job or going to school instead of him is out of the question, so what else can I do for him?
2006-09-18 21:35:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband "gets it" at night, day, or ANYTIME HE WANTS.
Our two children are too young for me to leave all day long. I nurse the youngest one who is only a few months old. If they were a little older I'd think about going out into the work force, but not at this stage of our lives. We didn't plan on having children this early-I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL AND WE GOT SURPRISED! So, we have kids, and that changed everything. He really flunks everything, doesn't get simple questions.... he is VERY slow, but very nice, and has many talents, just lacks the confidence to go with them. I'm nice to him and try to encourage him though.
2006-09-18 21:44:42 · update #1
Continue to love him and constantly give him your attention and support. He may have a learning disorder that can be corrected to a degree. Look up that possibility. Help him with his learning and give him confidence that you are a team no matter what.
A part time job for you might help also.
2006-09-18 21:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not understanding your question. Are you saying your husband is "slow" by meaning he is not making enough to support the family by means of a job. Or do you mean that he is wanting you to stay home and you don't agree with it. Which ever one it is remember marriage is all about compromise. Going to school will teach your kids that furthering your education will make them better citizens. You having a job and bringing more money home will show your children that Mom and Dad have to work for us to be able to have the things we have. Either one of those will help your children and you and your husband will just have to work together on what is better for the kids and y'all.
2006-09-18 21:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by firemanwfd17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How come you totally can't again? I'm sorry, but women don't always have to be the one to stay at home. Maybe he could use a break from doing all that anyways. I think it's definitely something to think more about. And if you just say no,no, no to that, then try to help him finding good jobs from the paper and all that or just giving him interviews as pretend. Just help him and support him and not let him think he's stupid.
2006-09-18 21:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's done can't be undone.
In your case both of you need to change your belief in only husband going to work and wife taking care of children.
If believing doesn't pay the rent then you have to do whatever is best of the family. If it means you have to be the one who brings in home the money so he needs to accept it.
Remember, no matter what you must always respect him and never look down on him.
2006-09-18 21:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rod 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husbands parents pulled him out of school when he was 12 and put him to work. He is very uneducated and struggles with the basic of things but in saying this he earns more money as a bricky than some who went to university. He does crosswords and jigsaw puzzles to keep his brain alert. Try to find a hobby your hubby loves to keep him active and just let him know how much you appreciate what he does for your family and how much you love him.
2006-09-18 21:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the local Vocational Rehabilitation center. They will work with your husband and help him to find the job that is best for him. There are a lot of employers who are willing to work with people who are learning disabled. I adopted 2 handicapped children who are now 18 & 19 and we work with our local Voc. Rehab. office and they are great! It sounds like you have a pretty good marriage and that's great. Just be patient and give him lots of praise when he deserves it, don't let him give up on himself! Once you get in touch with Voc. rehab he will get a job that he can handle, that will help his self-esteem and self confidence and things will get better! Hang in there!
2006-09-18 23:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry and much less have children with someone you knew wasn't going to be able to support you? Maybe he needs to stay at home and take care of the kids while you go back to school and work.
If you feel the great oz gave you the brain....then make use of it.
2006-09-18 21:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 04:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always thought that women r the secret of the family to keep it up and running. patience is a virtue we all humans have to learn how to use it. just by showing concern u r already working on it. i simply suggest to hang in there, u and only u will know the answer to that. about ur husband... well, i believe the best to help him out is by communicating, talk to him, let him know what u feel...let him also tell u whats going on with himself. u need to open the channel of conversation to first understand the problem and attack it with a solution...only u know whats good for u and ur family. good luck...wish u the best!
2006-09-18 21:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sir_J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look for easy work for him ,and ask at th job center they could give you some ideas and might be able to fit him up with some trails at different jobs ,,,there must be one thing hes realy good at ,find this and he will have a job.
2006-09-18 21:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋