Ihad a fling with a guy from work...even thou im happy with my partner.(no having goes. i know i was wrong)We both called it a day...(More him..)as we were getting to close with our emotions and he felt he could'nt compete with what my partner could offer me.
How ever we called it a day and said we would still remain mates...this is not the case as he hasnt bothered with me since...the relationship lasted 6 weeks but i do miss him annd his company as we had a good chemistry between us..
so why does my heart still pine for him???
2006-09-18 21:28:50 · 11 answers · asked by natalie.waterson@btinternet.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Milkydotco...point taken
2006-09-18 21:50:49 · update #1
i think you coulb be rite pisces red
2006-09-18 21:53:08 · update #2
I think in all honesty, speaking from personal experience that you may just miss the excitement more than anything of sneaking around and it all being all new with this guy as compared with your partner. Maybe you just need to accept what you have with your current partner, that he is real and he loves you rather than thinking the grass is greener elsewhere.
You obviously didn't think this other guy is better for you and would make you happier than the guy you already have otherwise you would have left your current fella. I know this sounds harsh but maybe you just wanted your cake and ate it? I think you should consider it a good thing that you are no longer 'friends' with this other guy as it will only lead to temptation again and you would never truely have been able to call it a day. I think this other guy is really hurting too hence the reason that he has cut all ties to get over this.
I think you should leave things as they are and focus on the relationship you have. You at least owe it to your current boyfriend to try and make things work. But you must remember that when any relationship (or fling for that matter) ends it will hurt and you will miss the guy as you obviously had more feelings for him than you realised. If you still think this way in a month or so, then maybe you need to rethink whether your current relationship is something you want to be a part of and think about being on your own for a while to think about what (or who) it is that you truely want.
At the end of the day, I think you probably already know deep down what that will be. Good luck & I'm sure you'll feel better soon hun!
2006-09-18 21:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by AngelWings 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same situation except i finished it cause the guy has a girlfriend and i have a boyfriend who i was unhappy with at the time but since having affair my relationship couldn't be better, i still talk to the guy but not to much as he is a bit ott as he didn't really want it to finish and still text and stuff, maybe he is affraid if he talks to you that you might get the wrong idea or maybe he still likes you.I think you still really want to be having this affair for whats missing in the relationship you are in, have you been in it a long time maybe you need something to put the spark back in the relatioship you are in. Hope this helps hunni x
2006-09-18 21:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by sexyass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos it was nice and romantic. There wasn't time for the bad bits to show up. He sounds like a nice bloke, and you are wondering what might have been. You will feel like this for a while, but in the mean time look at your partner, and remind yourself why you chose him. He is obviously the guy for you and you say you are happy with him. The other guy is distancing himself cos its too painful to see you at the moment. Things should get back to normal, you just have to give it time, however, its unlikely to be as it was before.
2006-09-18 21:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much thinking about him isnt giong to help you, you need to appreciate what you have and not search for the extra mile. you are still pining for him because it was lust, a rush of excitement that has gone. Just because you feel that way now dont get back in touch he has obviously moved on.
2006-09-18 21:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a tricky one at all ANGEL,we reap what we sow!This girl will be ok when the next sap enters her target area,she will think of it as new meat!!!Especially,she must not ever think about her partners heart,and that IT might be broken if HE knew the situation she got herself into-that would never do though!Would she pine for him-i think not.
2006-09-18 21:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it in the context of romantic love. You can sigh over it, mull over it and mourn it. Of course, if your boyfriend finds out, you'll regret it.
2006-09-18 21:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you genuinely loved this man.maybe you weren't as sure of your relationship with your current partner as you thought.maybe you need to take time for yourself to see who your heart lies with
2006-09-19 01:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheat - you have no right to treat your partner like this move on you are not a nice person
2006-09-18 21:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by ruddy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
very very hard to 4get your love can't!!! Sometime u can stop to cry but can't stop to 4get. Hever, time will b making your heart better...B luck :-)
2006-09-18 22:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by nonglnalak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are little bit too sensitive!
2006-09-18 21:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by pisces red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋