my boyfriend keeps talking to girls on msn everytime i go near his computer he minimises the page?

Answer 1

if he wnts to play silly little games then go ahead and do the same with men on your msn....see how he likes a taste of his own medicene!!!!!

Answer 2

Well I think the important thing to know is what he's talking to them about.... if it's all totally innocent, then what's wrong with him talking to other people.

One assumes he talks to women at work, that doesn't necessarily mean he wants to sleep with them.

If on the other hand he is having intimate conversations, which is sort of indicated by the fact that he's minimising the screen then that's a completely different matter.

He may also be minimising the screen for a quiet life as he knows how you are going to react.

I would talk to him, if he's nothing to hide, then tell him not to minimise the screen.

Answer 3

Its a problem thats been around since the net began , first with chat sites now MSN ...... point at the end of the day is though it can be innocent fun it can be a symptom of a much larger problem between the two of you. The fact that he minimizes the page obviously is not a good sign. It sounds to me like he requires something he isint getting from your relationship. You should chat to him about it and tell him it concerns you and you would like him to give it up for a month to prove it isint an issue for him. If he says no ..... or doesnt stick to it....you have your answer.

Answer 4

Hmmmm that sounds seedy. Maybe you should start doing the same things and see how he takes it. The best way to make someone see that their behavior is wrong is to put the shoe on the other foot, and not say anything about what you're doing. I guess you can figure out that he's on there chatting with women, and probably having on line sex, but it's not too serious. As long as it doesn't go beyond that. But if it's something that you feel very uncomfortable about, then you should do what I said and then when he throws a fit, which I'm pretty sure he will, then you and him can really sit down and talk to him about it. If you just start talking to him, he's likely to get defensive.

Answer 5

It could just be he's having an innocent convo and there are no problems at all but frankly my luv if you are the slightest bit concerned you should talk to him. Tell him your concerned, talk it out and see what happens. If he's not prepared to listen then is he really worth having?

Must say though my best friend had the same problem from the other point of view recently. She talks to a lot of men on MSN, including myself, and her boyfriend got very jealous and insisted she stopped. It was all totally Innocent but he couldn't cope with that in his head. She did what she asked but it really wasn't what she wanted and they would have been much better off talking it out and maybe her boyfriend should have talked to some of the guys and got to know them. He is now an ex boyfriend - not just because of that though, there were issues involving soil on a window sil I believe lol.

What ever happens good luck :-)

Answer 6

If you don't like it, discuss it with him. Though you are his girl friend, he also might have some personals. If you want him to share everything, talk with him and tell him that you love him and care for him so much. You should also give a guarantee that you wont leave him at any time and you would take everything easily and make him understand your feelings to him.

He has his own characteristics. He might have minimised the window to talk with you and give more attention to you. So dont mistake him. Talk to him openly about what you have in mind.

Answer 7

Msn is addictive - it becomes a compulsion which is really hard to stop. I'd insist on having a look at what he's up to - it doesn't sound good. And then I'd chuck the computer out the window.

Answer 8

sounds like hes talking about stuff he shouldnt be!! If it was innocent banter with the ladies, he'd have no reason to minimize - I think you need to tell himyou want to read what hes saying and if he objects - you have reason to be worried.
If after talking to him about your concerns he still doesnt change his attitude toward msn - I think you'd be better off without. Why he may not be cheating - hes not being honest either.

Answer 9

Go to a girlfriends house and get on her computer and pose as another woman, one you think may appeal to him and ask him if he wants to chat.

If he says something like I would love to chat to you, but only as a friend because I am already spoken for. Then you will know that he is a gentleman and you are a typical mistrusting female.

Answer 10

He is obviously flirting with other girls when you are there, that means he not respecting you at all. I wouldn't say dump him I think you need to let him know that you don't like that and ask him to stop doing it. If he doesn't then that means he doesn't really care about you so you should definitely leave him. Don't let him play for a fool be smarter than that respect yourself!!

Answer 11

tell him how you feel, and make him realize how he would feel if you did that to him.
after the explanation, and hopefully a nice talk (as long as neither of you attack each other), the problem should be fixed.

if he keeps doing it, say goodbye to a man who will in the long run, make you suffer as he does not care about you as much as you care about him.

keep in mind that what he is doing is wrong. he has no reason to chat with other girls, when he has you (unless they are his good friends, then that would be more acceptable, but still unnecessary). even then he should not be chatting everyday.