2006-09-18 20:53:01 · 18 answers · asked by Lilmisssassy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is when a man is head of household and punishes his wife for wrong doing (this is consensual)
2006-09-18 20:55:41 · update #1
it intrests me..i wanna know more about it..anyone practice this if u do..does it really hep ur marriage
2006-09-18 20:56:50 · update #2
http://lovingdd.blogspot.com/
2006-09-18 21:00:30 · update #3
Actually, it didn't go out with the Victorian ages... and she never said "brutal". There is nothing wrong with this kind of relationship if it works for YOU. Do NOT let other people judge you or shame you for it. Many, many people flourish in this type of relationship and communicate much better... it does not mean you are not an adult or unable to make your own decisions. It simply means you enjoy being with an alpha, take-charge man. Please don't let these other bozos make you feel bad! There is a difference between abuse and dd... the first is done out of the selfish need to control which you have no consented to and the second is unselfish control which you have consented to.
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2006-09-18 22:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you talking about domestic violence or a situatin where you are totally submissive to your husband in a consensual manner, the two are completely different! For the first one, get help, no one should be ever subjected to violence in the home. If the second on, thats a completely different case, and there is lots of info on the website, just use your imagination and use the search engines, and there are also lots of groups for chat and support on 360, if its this, why not do a page asking for what you need to know, then you will get people coming to you where you can ask and get info
2006-09-19 04:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by SunnyDays 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe in the man being head of the household but only in respect of making the final decision when a tough decision needs to be made. However, I'm a Christian and he's not, so that makes me the spiritual head of our family whether he recognises it or not. Nobody has the right to punish their partner, that's a damaging and ridiculous notion. It's power play which has no place in a marriage.
2006-09-19 05:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by good tree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
surely what your'e after in a loving relationship is equality and the ability to reason and make decisions together ? Sure not everyone fits this model but to say a man should discipline his wife is taking us back to cave days. Its obvious the woman you accepts this fate with a smile has issues and requires the help of a good shrink not a man with an iron fist.
2006-09-19 04:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lukas D 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it sounds ridiculous. Marriage is a union of two adults who are capable of making their own decisions hence consequently their own mistakes. I don't believe anyone has the right to judge your past mistakes (obviously within the boundaries of the law) or to punish you for such errors. Why does your husband get to have authority over you? I bet you don't get to have authority over him? It sounds like a very old fashioned way of doing things within a marriage and personally I would not settle for it!
Personally I think it can only spell trouble for your marriage if your husband is constantly in charge of you and you have to be in fear of him. When do you draw the line on what punishments are acceptable and what is deemed punishable, and what about his mistakes. So he can have affairs or harm you and there are no consequences but if you overspend on the shopping budget then you're in the dog house? I don't see how that can work in the long run.
Personally I think the strongest marriages are built on mutual respect and admiration, combined with a little give and take! Good luck!
2006-09-19 03:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by AngelWings 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
domestic discipline for whom ? is it for your husband or yourself or your children or the helpers ?for children of course right from the beginning u have to train them to follow certain rules like making the bed, cleaning the table keeping their toys in their room, time for watching t.v. etc. but it is not only for the kids. whatever rules u set each & every member of the family should follow them.discipline should be inculcated right from the childhood. because whatever u learn in your childhood stays with u till the end.if u mean wife beating child abuse it is not a discipline. it is dictatership. & in a family nobody is the dictator . all r just members who have to follow the rules of the family. man is not the head of the house. even wife has the same responsibilitiesa & same position as her husband. in the family.a family will be a happy family when all the members( including the kids) love each other , respect each other & care for each other.
2006-09-19 03:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're speaking of a Sub/Dom relationship I take it. While both parties agree. It isn't a type of relationship that would work for me. I suppose if you are a natural submissive then it won't matter. I find it too degrading and a lil too much like a middle-eastern marriage.
2006-09-19 08:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is domestic violence in disguise, I have never heard of anything so stupid in my life, if my b/f hit me for not washing his socks I would tell him where to stick his dirty washing!!!! Any man or woman that hits or is violent towards their partner should be locked up and the key thrown away, I cannot see anything healthy about this, imagine living in fear of being smacked for not doing something properly. What is this, the dark ages? If you enter into a relationship like this then good luck to you, lets hope you don't end up in hospital.
2006-09-19 08:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Serios question. I think the man should be the head of the house. But "brutaly punishing" is wrong ofcoarse. The man ( a wise man of the house) should never even need to raise a hand, that is if he tryly wise. For the kids.... well they seem to understand only sweets, candy, and a smack on their bottoms. Jently, but it should be under stood.
2006-09-19 04:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur84 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
This went out with the Victorian ages. Most marriages I see (and these are ones with my friends) are mutual. Both partners make decisions equally and both are equal heads of the household.
If he tries to hit you, get out!
2006-09-19 04:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋