how can a person get more confidence in themselves .i know someone that has very low self estem and she is driveing everyone crazy by saying "you guys re going to leave me as freinds i just know it and it don't matter how many times we tell her no you are our friend and we are not going to stop being friends ,but it is getting old i told her to go to talk to a dr or therapist or somethng a nd she don't have any money . Any sugfgestions ?
2006-09-18 19:10:30 · 7 answers · asked by dee d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
JUST BE HER FREN AND LISTEN TO HER AND BE NICE!!!!
2006-09-18 19:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to suffer from poor self esteem and self confidence. I don't know if this helps, but I will tell you my situation, and how it was resolved. As a teen, I was really akward. And I had curly/frizzy hair that I had no idea how to fix. Picture Slash from Guns N Roses, and you're pretty close to an image of me at the time. I had a friend finally show me how to fix my hair. And I started working as a cashier a few years later. Between the two, I came out of my shell, and started to have self confidence. With the self confidence came self esteem. I don't know your friend's situation, but seeing that I could hold my own against the general population helped me.
2006-09-19 02:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by There can only be one - (ANSWER) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get into the word of God, because in Gods eyes she is very special, one of a kind. She does need help. She must have some horrible parents who put her down or something. Don`t give up on her, she really needs you. She is afraid everyone she cares about is eventually going to leave her. She probably comes from a broken home, and is insecure about alot of things. God can heal her from this, he`s probably the only one who can. If your a real friend you will suggest her reading a bible. Tell her to read the book of John. This will show her someone really loves her. This is serious so I hope you take my advice. God Bless.
2006-09-19 02:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Spiritled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must something of herself and not to rely on a man to bring hapiness.The divorce rate is over 50 percent failure in the USA for first time marriages, over seventy percent failure rate for second time marriages.
define what makes you tick and passionate, hobbies, interests, and become extremely successful in your career. .
Forget the multitude of books. They will mostly confuse you except the short Robert Johnson trio of books. He She and We.
I have learned about boundaries. I have the feeling your friend knows nothing about them. This is great to learn. There is a great book on the subject called Boundaries. It is a thick non-religious book on the subject, a soft cover, /Ph DO written. Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No is another great book.
I personally have done numerous workshops, read lots of self help books, been in therapy, etc. I have done The Forum offered by Landmark education to duiscover purposes. etc. Reading great books is therapy, like Your Erroneous Zones because we learn about our own weaknesses and learn self improvement. Stay away from destructive people, and that might sometimes mean family.
2006-09-19 02:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have low self esteem as well so I know what your going through with your friend. Just be honest with her and tell her that your not leaving her and ask her why she thinks this? there must be a root cause to her thinking this.
2006-09-19 02:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Chuck D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be with her and at times ask her to decide your groups programm, listen to what she says, allow her to speak- if needed force her to voice her opinions and support her.
2006-09-19 02:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there and support. no matter what. that way can be a good friend
2006-09-19 02:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋