I am married for last 10 years and have two kids. My wife @35 is two years younger than me.
Of late she has been complaining that she is not enjoying sex with me. She even informed that now when I touch her it does not arouse her as it used to be before.
She loves me a lot and same is with me, however, I am worried that this situation may affect our affections.
Please advise what shall we do?
2006-09-18 19:04:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I asked if she would like to have anal sex, but she refused.
2006-09-19 01:48:28 · update #1
Listen to me. You have a problem that could get serious if you don't or your wife doesn't understand whats going on. Your wife is in her sexual prime and body chemistry is changing. You and your wife both need to read the information on this site. It will help you a bunch. Good Luck.
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2006-09-18 19:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of concern since she complains of arousal problems by ur touch I have few suggestions 4 u. Take a warm bath may be herbal or scented prior 2 having sex. Have a light dinner. Soft music during sex, little fresh flowers in room with dimly lit light. Ur aim should be just play not sex and hope u would succeed. U both could go 4 a joint compassionate bath as well.
2006-09-19 04:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by mangalamfabrics 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you no longer interrested in Sex? Probably not. So she has to understand that this is a relationship ending problem. Too many women after a few years of being worshipped in bed lull themselves into the idea that if their interrest in sex declines it doesn't matter what their husband needs. Keep in mind this problem isn't hers alone. You both need to work towards resolving it. It could be that the way you make love has changed over time. Perhaps you need to "go back to school" as a lover or maybe after 10 years you need to shake things up a bit more than you think. If you work togather and can't seem to revive her interrest in sex it is time for professional help. If he drags her feet or resists face the reality that perhaps she's not interrested in making you happy and you need to leave.
2006-09-19 02:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by W0LF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your detailed remark is your answer. YOU ASKED IF SHE WANTED ANAL??? That is something she would ask you if the situation was reversed. Look, probably 75% of men married ten years have this problem.
Try this, take her on a nice date. If she drinks, let her get a buzz. DO NOT ARGUE ABOUT ANYTHING!! Take her home, turn on some slow music, dance a little. Slowly undress her and go down on her and stay there. DO NOT STOP UNTIL SHE HAS AT LEAST ONE ORGASM. If you make sure you please her first, everytime, your sexual relationship should survive and thrive.
She might even give you a little anal.....NAH
2006-09-19 10:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems either you are not caring or you are not able to satisfy her needs.Have a open talk what is lacking due to which the situation has arisen,and try to solve the problem accordingly.It is a fact that with the passage of time things do change,they always do not remain the same.
2006-09-19 02:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very patient and kind to her.You can be real sexy by helping her around the house she may just be tired or maybe you could have a nice dinner together and just cuddle dont exspect sex it will happen naturally.Its possible she feels unattractive so try to make her feel like shes pretty.Dont lie but focus on the positive and also its may be hormones so please be loving patient and faithful and if you love one another im sure you can work it out.
2006-09-19 02:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am surprised to hear that u say you are worried that this situation may affect our affections.
love is not for sex. love comes from your inner self and u shouldn't be giving importance to sex and shouldnt allow it to come between u and your wife.
this is just a normal problem, it can be becaus eof some harmonal changes in her and not becuase she dosent likes you.
you should consult doctor for the same and dont creat problems in your happily married life.
2006-09-19 04:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Hidimba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to spice it up some, make some changes, don't get in a rut of the same thing everytime. Do you ever just whisper something sexy in her ear, while your watching tv, or tell her how hot she looks?
2006-09-19 02:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wift don't like youe sex!!! But u have had sex with her 10 years already and has two kids with her!!! I think he bore og your sex or place!!! U should travel to her, change location go to a beach, waterfall, stay in a tent .........she may enjoy I holp :-)
2006-09-19 05:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by nonglnalak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first stop expectaions?! strip her fully 100% take out all ornaments. give her oil massage slow & steady ( himalaya brand anti stress massage oil) spend 20 to 30 minutes use oil generously. shave her bottom clean. pour honey & lick slow & steady 15 minutes. give her hot bath. do this regularly. ( strictly no sex during this therapy period)
she will be ok after some time.
2006-09-19 03:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Motu P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋