2006-09-18 18:58:13 · 10 answers · asked by Siva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Althought many of these answers are great and true, but there are certains things that change both women and men. Some men are not always romantic before the kids was born, so he will never be romantic. If he was, try to setup the mood again. Maybe go back to where you both had your first date and rekindle your love at first sight again. Remind him of the good times when you guys spend time together. I think maybe you two are just too busy in your life that you two just need some quality time together to unwind and shares your pesonal feelings and thoughts. Arrange your kids to be with a babysitter and spend a night together with no distraction at home or at the hotel for the weekend or a week. Plan a romantic dinner together. If he's not in the mood, you should set the mood. Wear nice sexy red dress and put perfume on you. It's always nice to show him some pictures of you and him when you two were young. Remind him that you will always love him regardless of what his looks. Nobody is perfect.
2006-09-21 19:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Cava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a number of reasons for this to be:
-have you gained excessive weight?
-can you afford the number of kids that you have so he doesnt have to worry how he will cover the next set of bills coming in?
-are you stressing him out with problems that he sees as minor but you see as major?
-what kind of attention do you give him?
These are just some of the questions that you should ask yourself and then if answer yes to any, you must find ways to try to solve them. However the only way you will find out the truth is thru communication. Maybe start by offering him a bath when he gets in at night. Then try to find some time together for just the both of you where you can both have some quality private time to reflect on everything that has happened in your lives together and what needs to be done to bring it back to how it used to be.
2006-09-18 19:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they relate to their wife as a Mom.
It is hard for some Men to think of a Mom as a hottie.
Also when the kids are finally asleep, they probably need some personal; time and just unwind. If the Children mind their parents more they would be less tiring, emotionally, physically, and mentally. All of these stresses need healing on a regular basis.
It would help to get children's behaviour under control even if it takes working on it really hard. Go to family counselling and parent effectiveness training. When you have the kids listening, helping and following the house rules, you can go to marriage counselling if it is still a problem.
God Bless You, ;-)
2006-09-18 19:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I bet you two are not fulfilling some of "The Five Love Languages" described by Gary Chapman in his book by the same name. You and your husband have love tanks that need filling in several ways, not only sexually. The book is worth reading by all married couples. I read the male version and should have read it 20 years ago! Work on filling your love tanks and the romance will follow!
I have nothing to do with this book, just a supporter of long-term monogamous marriages between men and women who have given birth to children. . . for the sake of the children.
2006-09-18 19:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question can only be answered by both of u together.
Being There For Each Other -In the midst of the chaos and hustle bustle in your lives, make time each day to reconnect with one another and to share your feelings and thoughts.
Listen to one another - Hug and touch each other more often - Take walks with each other every day - Make getting enough rest a top priority - Find something to do that you both enjoy -
Use humour and find things to laugh about with each other - Eat healthy foods - Be flexible - Affirm one another with praise and appreciation - Give your spouse space if needed - REACH OUT FOR EACH OTHER.
Importance of Rituals
Don't ignore the rituals of your lives. Rituals can help you and your family heal by reaffirming the bonds between you. Celebrate birthdays, anniversaries and special holidays with more zest.
Try this out and Best of Luck
2006-09-18 19:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, mind you I haven't been in this situation as I never had kids, but my theory is that men who are in the delivery room to watch their babies being born are getting WAAAAAY too much information! Men get visual stimulation and if he's trying to make love to his wife and all he's getting is a visual of a baby sliding out between her legs with all this afterbirth spilling out, it's kinda nasty. Like Carlos Mencia says "I eat at that restaurant sometimes!!" . I think men just get turned off by that. Let's face it, it's not sexy!!!
2006-09-19 02:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he just wasnt the romantic type to start off with but he sure did put a good effort into it.He doesnt see the need anymore.Now guys like me who are always romantic dont get the girl cuz nice guys finish last.I dont know why.
2006-09-18 19:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by j p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probally for the same reason women don't. They're too tired and too worried about how to pay for it all.
2006-09-18 19:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tamara 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are to busy paying bills
2006-09-18 19:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by kevin d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's life...but only you can change it.
2006-09-18 19:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by anesziere 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋