Why do people feel the need to be in love?

Question

It seems when one is in love, it messes up other aspects of their life. Why is being in love so important to people?

Answer 1

It's all about balance...and people have needs as far as companionship. Some rare people love to be alone, however, it usually is because they been kicked in the butt by love. Balancing your life is important, love and other aspects of life can coexist.

Answer 2

Abraham Maslow (April 1, 1908 – June 8, 1970) was an American psychologist. He is mostly noted today for his proposal of a hierarchy of human needs, often presented as a pyramid. Maslow contended that humans have a number of needs that are innate. Maslow assumed our needs are arranged in a hierarchy in terms of their potency and some are more powerful than others. The lower the need is in the pyramid, the more powerful it is. The higher the need is in the pyramid, the weaker and more distinctly human it is. The first four layers of the pyramid are what Maslow called "deficiency needs": the individual does not feel anything if they are met, but feels anxious if they are not met. Next are "growth needs" or "being values". When fulfilled, they do not go away; rather, they motivate further. The base of the pyramid is formed by the physiological needs, including the biological requirements for food, water, air, and sleep. Once the physiological needs are met, an individual can concentrate on the second level, the need for safety and security. Included here are the needs for structure, order, security, and predictability. The third level is the need for love and belonging. The fourth level is esteem needs that require both recognition from other people and self-esteem. Finally, self-actualization sits at the apex of the original pyramid.

Answer 3

Not only is this a psychological question but also a philosophical one aswell. Unlike sex, eating, and sleeping the culturally constructed idea of "love" does not work on a "negative-feedback loop." Therefore, the need is external, often times motivated by enviornmental factors like society, family, friends. There is also the very potent mixture of humans as social beings--always attaching ourselves to things and above all people in emotional ways.

If you want to talk neuroscience and chemcial reactions, look deeper into the structure called the nucleus accumbens, frontal lobe region. This area of the brain pairs stimuli with dopamine and serotonin and are stored in the hippocampus, the memory center. This chemical interaction is a biological basis for every experience so when someone makes us feel good our brains are literally being fumigated with positive chemicals, feelings. We later can call upon these powerful devices to shape our relationships and tailer our self identity.

The other part of your question regarding other aspects of life being unbalanced. This, in my opinion, is a matter of maturty and emotional stamina that comes with experience. Finding the perfect harmony between multiple aspects of one's life including, and especially concerning love, is a lifelong process. Love is important because it is so relative to every experience we have in the prescence of it or the abscence.

Answer 4

because it's like being on drugs - it makes you enthusiastic and full of energy, you think that world is the best place to be, people seem friendly, everything seems possible, future is suddenly bright... you don't care about other aspects of life anymore - lost your job? - who cares! i'm in loooove! - crashed your car? - who needs a stupid car when you're on the wings of looove! your friends left you? - who cares since you have your love! and so on and on till the bitter parting when everything turns upside down. but after a while we are ready for another go, just like a junkie. why? 'cause love makes you feel GOOD.
it's simple actually.

Answer 5

People who do not know experientially the difference between loneliness and being alone, seek some feeling of security, and seek love, instead of trying to be loving, not dependent on another person for such a beautiful joy yielding quality !

Answer 6

I think Peter is right and then here's my explaination You will have more free time if you get the old traditional girl with a lot of homeic about her doing the 40's & 50's stuff I might be whatever!

Answer 7

It's a chemical reaction that allows people to find mates, reproduce and continue the species. Without this need there would be less reproduction and fewer multi-child families.

Answer 8

people are involved in the love relationships because they want to feeel whole.they want to have that someone whom they get to share their happiness and hard times with.The problem with this commitments is that some of them enter the relationships with expectations which they dont get to share with their partners and thus creating problems in the long run. I basically think that they must be coommmunication between couples in order to curb the problems experinced in love relationships

Answer 9

After marriage love is more important to lead your life..

Before marriage you need lot of courage to face this world.

Love : Loss Of Valubale Energy (if you are going to fulfill your dreams)

Answer 10

It's called human nature. Something that is built into the majority of our brains. I have seen that some people have the same viewpoints as you but this is very heterodox.