My best friend, 20, hasnt had a for more than 3 months, just asked his girlfriend to marry him. The problem is, he is a big flirt, regardless if he knows he is doing it or not or even trying to. I think that she is the right one but i really think its too soon. What do you think that he should have befor asking her, if you think he's ready than thats fine too. How old do you think you should be? What do you think?
2006-09-18 18:44:40 · 6 answers · asked by 96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*hasn't had a job* (first line)
2006-09-18 18:45:18 · update #1
Qualifications before getting married: make sure both parties are single LOL
If your friend is still flirting then he isn't secure enough to get married and should get his flirting out of his system before making a commitment. right? I am sure he would not be toooo happy if she flirted with fellas eh?
2006-09-20 05:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by G♥♥G♥♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that he has a job with a steady income source. Being a flirt may just be part of his personality type. However, I would let things settle down and allow for some adjustment time before the bride to be runs out and buys a dress. Nothing could be more disasterous for a newlywed than to come home and tell a spouse that he lost his job and has no fast solutions for getting back into the job market. The other thing would be a roof over his head. Even if it is just an apartment. Even if he is going to school now, that is a step in the right direction. I got married to my husband at 21 and only knew him for 3 months before we were engaged. 54 weeks after the first date we said "I do". That was 10 years ago this month. As long as he is willing to put the time and effort into the marriage, they should be just fine. Wish them luck. You may be that shoulder that he needs when things get rough.
2006-09-19 01:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by scarlettohara1861 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he loves her but hopefully his gf realizes that marriage is a big deal and ur friend not having a job comeon who in there right mind would take on marriage before they flipped burgers... u need to sit down and tell them what they are getting into...he should have a job, own car, and at least an apt...I think he should wait til he is at least 24 .....Being engaged that is fine but they need to think about college and having fun and being single before doing all of this and starting a family...trust me if u get married and have kids before u can even go out to the club and have fun ur going to either cheat or end up in divorce...
2006-09-19 01:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by queenbee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing he should do is to get a job... than be ready to quit flirting and willing to sacrifice and be accomodating, learn how to communicate, must share all responsibilities and show all love and concern to the one he is gonna married!
Age doesn't matter as long as he understand the above...period!
2006-09-19 01:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is a big step and you really have to know someone before giving them have of your life.
But as you know the heart demands what the reason can't understand.
You gotta trust that person like your life depended on it, but most importantly you gotta trust yourself in making that decision.
If two people really love each other, they can wait until ready.
2006-09-19 01:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by marian m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first tell him to get a job and he chearish her be there for her from good or worst. and that he been taken and love only one person. also that he are serice to settle down.
2006-09-19 01:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋