ok well some ppl see it differently, i was wondering if it was normal or (OK) for someone to not think much of it...like i know that some ppl want to wait till they are married because its a big deal and all and others are like little sluts and go around sleeping with ppl since they were 12...well what if you are 15 and have saved it this far but you just want to lose it. but obviously not to just anyone?? because they way my friend and i see it, it doesnt really matter to us, i mean of course the time and the person does but actual virginity doesnt...idk what to do.
2006-09-18 18:20:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
What you have is a healthy attitude towards sex. I hope you realize that! Virginity is only important if you plan of joining some strange cult of religious group that even decides who you can talk to. Virginity really is no big deal, however, having multiple partners is a very big deal,sex for the sake of sex is wrong, itshould be another way of expressing love for the other person. All those little12 year olds who are just sleeping with anyone who asks are really scared kids looking for the love their parentswere too busy to give them. Feel sorry for them. Unlike you, they don't know what love really is. You'll know when you are ready, so don't just give it up to just anyone, wait until you are sure you are ready, and it will be the best experience you've had yet.
2006-09-18 18:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Waiting until you are married is a matter of your own morality. But you should wait until you are older to make such a decision. Even though you sound mature if you are 15 you are just too young to have sex. If you do it, you will regret it. You can get sexually transmitted diseases. You can get some that are not curable likes HIV-AIDS or herpes. You could get something like clymedia that often has no symptoms and end up sterile.
Wait until you are 19 or 20 and in LOVE. You will not regret it,.
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2006-09-19 01:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Virginity means nothing to me either and that's totally okay. Just make sure that you are responsible when you have sex. Use condoms and at least one other method of contraception if you can. If you don't know the facts about sex, planned parenthood has a lot of resources for you. You can visit their website plannedparenthood.org or schedule an appointment to talk with someone there and possible get yourself on birth control and pick up a few free condoms (although I prefer the store bought ones myself). Even if you are not sexually active now, it's best to be safe for those just incase moments.
2006-09-19 02:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only have it once, make sure you aren't throwing it away. Once it's gone, it's gone forever and you can't get it back. Some girls just want to lose it ASAP but when they grow up they realize it was a mistake. Some guys are pure pigs but the good ones will respect you for it. You're 15 so don't be in a hurry. Some ppl will bother and tease u about it but they are probably just jealous they threw it away to a loser. Don't be in a hurry or think about it too much.
2006-09-19 01:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by BereaGirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Babygirl I highly suggest that you hold on to your virginity as long as you can, at least until you turn 18. At your age you probably won't enjoy sex as much because, I'm sorry, you don't really know what it suppose to feel like. You should be physically as well as mentally prepared to take such a step. Trust me, you'll understand what I'm trying to say once you turn about 21. Because your hormones are raging now, I would suggest you participate in a little self-gratification (masturbation); it's safe and so pleasurable. Hey I'm 38 years old and know what I'm talking about. Trust me, at your age sex is not going to be all that and don't allow yourself to be pressured into anything you're not ready for.
2006-09-19 01:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by adrianj_518 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way, if you decide that you are ready to lose your virginity at this age, then so be it. However, I will tell you one thing. I decided to lose my virginity to the guy that I am now married to before we got engaged. It didn't make me feel more of a complete person than I was before. In fact, I almost regretted it later when I got married because this is a special bond between two people. I would have felt pretty stupid to have been dumped by him or ended up pregnant. This is one of the few things in your life that once you lose it, you can never regain that same feeling at that moment back again. I work with a young lady who I don't think quite as much of because she was engaged to be married and was having sex with her fiance. As soon as she broke up with him, she hopped in bed with another person to help her cope. When that broke off, she found a third person to help her feel better. They broke up two weeks ago. Try to have enough respect for yourself to say that you waited for the right person, at the right time, and at the right place in your life. If you can't wait, please use protection. I have seen enough girls who thought that it "wouldn't happen to them". In the end they regretted it.
2006-09-19 01:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by scarlettohara1861 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah. i think it is just normal. i lost my virginity when i was 24 because i was waiting for the right person. before that, i cannot think of somebody which i would love having sex with. at age 18, i was thinking that it really is not a big deal if i lost it,so long as i won't have any regrets and that i will not get pregnant unprepared.
2006-09-19 01:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by statices 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, the question is not clear. In this part of the world most of the women (there are exceptions of course) wait till marriage before sex - before virginity is lost even if the b/f is the future husband.
2006-09-19 02:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Gopal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have your own place to live? A job that make good money? A husband? Are welling to get up at all hour of the night? Only get two hours of sleep each night. Are you ready to not go to any more party? Are ready to take on some more reasonable? Such as paying bills? Doctor bills? Buy food for you and your baby? Baby are not cheap. They are up at all hours of night. You or friend is to young. It is best to wait because some parent might kick you out and then what?At your age it not sex it rape your parner can go to jail for starory rape.Because you are not old enough to make that decision.
2006-09-19 01:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by rosebudwow 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
once you lose your virginity, even if it is with someone special, it will be an endless cycle downward. I wish I were to have saved it cause my husband was a virgin till the day we got married and that is something I can never give to him. And he only chose to give it to me. There is plenty of exploring to do without having sex.
This is a decision only you can make!!
I regret giving my virginity to my high school sweetheart if only I had waited three more years I would have been able to share the specialness with my husband.
2006-09-19 01:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi smashes 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋