are all step children regardless of age a curse from hell or just mine?

Answer 1

Hey! I am a step-child, and me and my step-dad get along great.

Answer 2

Need to know age they were when you came into the home. Also need to know the circumstances surrounding mom leaving and you showing up and time line. Also, need to know if you moved in and were/are shacking up with their father. Children don't want a replacement mother unless she is wise, knows better than to do the punishing and displays clear caring for them. If natural mother is in the picture and you are trying to show that you can do what the mother can't/couldn't then they will not like your intrusion.
The children are never the problem. It is the fact that the family is broken and that dad - usually - brings a replacement into the home quickly because he's needy and begins having sex without benefit of marriage. The parents and always the problem. The step parent is most often an exacerbator of the problems.
Why do children have to do all the dancing to the tune when it is the adults who couldn't get it right? Afterall, we ARE old enough to know better, aren't we?

Answer 3

Jackie, I raised mine, both are steps from a previous marriage.
They can be hard to raise especially if the other parent is still involved and influencing the way they think about you and your spouse,The best advice I can give is to raise them as your own, be there for them even when you think they dont want you to be, they do they just dont know it yet.
No matter what age they are, Mine are 27 and 25, they call me DAD, they call him father,.
Hope I helped even a little, good luck!

Answer 4

They are dreams compared to step parents.
For the first years of their life the kids world rotate around two people, mom and dad. When that world splits they experience a lot of trauma.
Is it easier to live with the kids like you do or seek some outside help? I think the help part is easier and will pay off tenfold in the future. Find a good family counselor.
Good luck.

Answer 5

No, I've heard bad stories about my friends step children. Both of them turned her into CPS and lied about her after she raised them a long time as if they were her own.
My sister's step child was 10-11 years old when he was pissing and pooping his pants still. He would also lie about things she said to his real mother.

Answer 6

Just take you're time they are also new to the situation sometimes the real parents try to play them of against each other they are caught in the middle and will try and get away with anything. you just want to set normal standards in a abnormal situation and they will try to push the boundaries. sometimes you try too much too be liked that will come with time. try too think how they must feel in this situation. be nice but strict and stick too you're guns.

Answer 7

Step children...! somewhat all step parent hate but to love a stepchildren more than your own lead you to stairs of heaven!

Answer 8

Wow. You are the adult here. No wonder they hate you, you treat them that way and they will react in horrible ways. Talk to your spouse about the problem, and take it easy on them for goodness sake. There lives have just gone through something major.

Answer 9

There 2 sides to every story. Maybe you seem that way to them. Most stepdads come in and give off this "I am in charge now attitude". Ofcourse the kids are going to react to that. Ease in to it and look for ways to have them respect you not resent or fear you. Mkay.

Answer 10

no not really , my step mom loves me and my kids , my kids call her grandma,, my rule on that.. just give your step kids a little time to adjust I know that you are not trying to take the place of there mother, but you are married to there dad , and sometimes
you just want to put them in the oven , just kidding ,, let god be your sword and shield , without him nothing is possible,,