What would you do if your "wife" constantly checked your cell phone records and frequently made comments insinuating that you were having an affair????? My friend deals with this on a regular basis, just wondered if the advice I gave him was the right thing to do?????? Be nice, he will read your responses.
2006-09-18 17:49:39 · 19 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No for gods sake....this is my boss!! No I AM NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM......HE DOESN'T PAY ME ENOUGH!lol
2006-09-18 17:59:02 · update #1
I, being bold, would throw down the gauntlet.
"If I am having an affair, you prove it! If you find something, we get a divorce. If you find nothing, I get an apology and you never do this again!"
2006-09-18 17:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Presuming that he isn't cheating on her, I would confront the mistrust she has of him (speaking from the "husband's" point of view). Secondly, let there be no secrets between the two of them, since they have made the commitment to be with each other forever (or as they say in the service, "'til death do you part"). When they spend time with each other and confront the problem of her snooping in the cell phone records and the assumptions (break the word assume down and see what you get), then the relationship will resume the good road. Pray while this happens and God will carry them through this.
2006-09-19 01:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by jmbarcus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not a guy, but i did that to my husband so i feel the need to respond.
a woman will not snoop and make accusations like that without something to make her believe anything was happening. for months i snooped on my husbands cell, and e-mails, some of the things i found only made me more suspicous. Turns out luckily he was just not telling me that a friend of his kept bringing his fiance along when they hung out. I had caught him in several lies trying to over this up because he thought i would get jealous. Of course after learning about this I wanted to meet her, now we're friends and my huband has no reason to cover things up, and I have no reason to snoop. Like I said before when a woman starts to snoop there was always some clue to lead here there. Not that it makes it right, but usually what the husband is doing isn't right either, and the woman knows that.
2006-09-19 00:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he having an affair? Sometimes where there's smoke there's fire. Just tell your friend to keep a separate cell phone that his girlfriends can call him on so his wife won't see...
Seriously, though, does he hide things from her? Maybe doesn't include her when he goes out? Maybe particularly when you two hang out? Just trying to examine if there are any root problems...otherwise it sounds like she is insecure and you should try to demonstrate that you would not cheat.
2006-09-19 00:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by am1292 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
email, cell phones, and text messaging make it easy to have 'friends' these days - now whether we stay in the confines of appropriateness or not IS the problem. if your wife has to check your phone records, etc. - there must be something that is causing her to be suspicious. this is a troubled relationship - as there must be poor communication. unless she is an obscessive
person. then that adds to the marriage's troubles. good luck. have a heart to heart with her.
2006-09-19 01:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by pagerDOWN 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask himself what does he do that makes her feel he is messing around. and its easy to say nothing but its something and as for he checking his cell phone let her if he has noting to hide then she can check all she wants. but what i think she needs is more attention she thinks shes is loosing him he needs to assure her that she is not then again he may be having an affair so bottom line he needs to find what hes doing to get this response from her
2006-09-19 03:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by maike j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...he is doing something that makes her suspicious, maybe strange phone calls, or he doesnt leave his phone anywhere. If he doesnt have anything to hide, he should confront her abnd tell her that if shes suspicious over soemthing he isnt doing, he might as well go out and do it. BUT if he is having an affair....MAN!! he would be lucky im not his woman.
2006-09-19 01:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i asked my husband this question. he said first of all he would never give any reason for me to fo that.
second: has he ever cheated in the past? if so that is why she is doing this(no trust)
third: maybe some one has been telling her stuff(on purpose, to have her all to him self or maybe that someone is a woman who wants her man)
**from me**: we share everything keep no secrets we go over all bills a phone records together. communication is the key! good luck to your boss
2006-09-19 01:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by halieysmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get another cell phone that does not keep record of your calls.
Try cricket or some other like service.
2006-09-19 00:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance says "he would start either checking hers because obviously if she is suspecting you to be having an affair...then she must be...or tell her if she doesn't stop monitoring your phone or whatever that you are going to seperate or get a divorce."
2006-09-19 00:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋