when do you know it's time to end the marriage, We've had have problems for at least 2 yrs, the last 3 mths have been the worst--no sex whatsoever, He dosen't want to be a part of mine and our children's lives
2006-09-18 17:36:54 · 24 answers · asked by mom of 2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, um, that is your answer, obviously if what you stated he doesn't want to be a part of your lives... what else is there? I'm sorry. prayers for you
2006-09-18 17:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know when its time when you have problems for at least 2 yrs, the last 3 mths have been the worst--no sex whatsoever, He dosen't want to be a part of mine and our children's lives, that my dear is when.
2006-09-19 01:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say now or soon. But you pretty much just answered your own question. There are plenty of signs that the marriage is over. I know maybe right now you are putting your blinders on and not wanting to realize the signs but they are there. Because the longer you stay with him and wait for him to come around your just going to keep hurting. Why stay with someone who doesn't even want to be in his own kids lives. Your kids deserve better and so do you. Best of Luck.
2006-09-19 00:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by babieshay27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday. Marriages are made up of admiration, respect, passion and trust. If the both of you don't have too much of any of these things, you are roommates....not much fun. And if he doesn't want to be part of your life or your children's lives, tho you may admire and respect each other, you have nothing to bind you. Things do get old, tired and wear out ---cars, teeth, machines, and yes, marriages. You may have nothing really to try to save, particularly if you have talked about counseling. It's tough to accept a death...marriages die for all sorts of reasons, from too much togetherness, from not evolving, from the stress of raising children, and from lack of interest. People change, situations change, and you both cease to be 'in the same book, on the same page', so to speak. But promise each other that you will remain friends, never criticize each other in front of your children, and reassure them that you both love them, they did not cause your marriage to fail, and that each of you will be there for them (even if he is not going to be).
2006-09-19 00:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have spent two years trying to fix the marriage via counseling, then I'd say it's time to call it a day and file for divorce. If you have not sought counseling, then try that before you do anything. If there is anything left in the marriage, it's worth saving if you want it. Good luck.
2006-09-19 00:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've given it your all and its not working...it's time to let go. You stated that he doesn't want to be a part of your or your children's lives honey, that's a big red warning flag he's waiving at you. Cut your losses now, before he takes anymore of your self esteem and move on. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your children. They know when you aren't happy, and living in a tense environment leads to some very tense and stressed children. It'll be hard, but you can do it. God never gives us anything we can't handle.
2006-09-19 00:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to continue having a relationship with someone who is not a part of your family. I think that staying with someone just because they have children is not healthy for anyone. I think it is sad that a man could just ignore his own children but if that is what he chooses to do than obviously he has a lot of issues. Ask yourself if it is doing more harm than good to you if he is in your life. (finances aside) I am talking about "you" emotionally. If the mom cannot function in a family know one can.
2006-09-19 00:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you know you have tried everything and that you can say good bye with no regrets. Sorry you are thinking of divorce. I am going through my own. I am all for marriage and I think too many people support divorce. However sometimes you can not stay in a marriage that is one sided, it is too painful.
2006-09-19 00:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you call it quits, ask him if he's willing to go to marriage counseling with you. If he refuses, I think you have you answer. From what you describe the marriage has been over for a while. I pray he'll agree to marriage counseling. Especially since there are children involved. God bless!
2006-09-19 01:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the deal was till death do us part i know its no help but you shouldnt give up if he wants to quit thats his bad let him try to answer to god, im not saying hang on forever but try and talk,look at the other two people in this marriage (your kids) and if the two of you cant come to a understanding that will save your marriage then try counsleing. the two of you must look at all the options before dragging the kids thru the mess.
the best of luck
2006-09-19 02:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by maike j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk away from your marriage until you have done everything in your power to fix the problems for the sake of your family. Once you have done everything you could to keep it together and it still doesn't help and your family is miserable, then you can walk away and have peace with your decision to end the marriage.
2006-09-19 01:31:59 · answer #11 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋